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what I mean by this is that time is lost on trying to find the perfect label for something. weāre just so complex that we donāt always fit into a label and thatās ok. even though a spectrum of possibilities can fall under different labels, some people forget that, and the way we interpret them is different. therefore, itās easier to follow someoneās personal explanations and actions rather than trying to simplify it for your own convenience/benefit. Iām putting so much emphasis on this because I struggled with whether or not to call myself asexual and I wasted so much time with that identity. now Iām just satisfied with knowing my personal experience, and once I explain it, people can call it what they want to. that goes for my struggles with my other identities as well. I realized that Iām more than just a list of labels, and that Iām constantly changing, which I appreciate profoundly.
May 21, 2025
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iām literally having this exact experience right now. i donāt know if im asexual or not and maybe i never will and maybe thats ok
May 22, 2025
@KILLCHARLIE yeppp itās such a wide spectrum that itās difficult to tell if you are or not. if you find a label that works for you, thatās great, and if someone disagrees, then thatās not your problem šāāļø also not a problem if you donāt find one that seems to suit you
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Meeting people in large group settings definitely helps, i find theres a very natural pull feeling to people that are similar to me and its wayyy more noticeable when im not hanging out with people who ive known forever.
Turns out almost everything i thought was unique to me could be distilled into a list of š«symptomsš«.
Ive alway seen myself as a drifter/chameleon type, i think my brain just resents ever being able to be defined or labelled or categorized.
That was disjointed but hope that helps, maybe that made sense to you and you are a little more understood now :))
Jul 18, 2024
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i think a lot of undiagnosed neurodivergent people spend their lives trying to live authentically, facing rejection, then trying to conform unsuccessfully - now that neurodiversity is less stigmatized, getting diagnosed feels like a weight off your shoulders because you understand that you werenāt just āunexplainably weird / bad / wrongā, you have a condition that can be ātreatedā / āsymptomsā can be mitigated, and instead of shooting in the dark trying to change things about yourself until youāre accepted, you can work in a specific direction to get some kind of support towards living more authentically because you know something about yourself you didnāt know before
i think that youāre right and ultimately autism, adhd, etc. are names for sets of characteristics that are different from an arbitrary norm set by white supremacy and capitalism, but coming to terms with that takes some time when those conditions exerted such pressure on you and you didnāt know you could discount the system because you didnāt know it applied to you. i feel like at least for me, after getting over the frustration of being undiagnosed with adhd (which is different than autism specifically) it became a less meaningful part of my identity, but that couldnāt happen until i processed how much of my life was informed by that fact without me even knowing
Mar 28, 2024
itās not separate from me; itās the vessel I inhabit to navigate the world. I try to avoid things that i know will make me feel physically bad and do things that I know will make me feel physically good. I eat food that feels nourishing and pleasurable for me; I sleep when I need to sleep and move when I need to move.
Itās something I try my best not to think about too much or to assign labels or judgments. Itās changed over the years in many ways and also stayed the same in others.
Most of the external points of comparison we use to examine ourselves are rooted in media standards that are fictitious and manufactured to make us feel bad about ourselves and buy products to fill an endless void of lack.
the societal expectation to LOVE your body is an unrealistic aspiration for many. It can sometimes be better to strive to view it in a neutral way, to be grateful for the things youāre able to do and even just for being here. You only get one life (as far as we know with absolute certainty) so why spend it needlessly criticizing yourself.
Anyway I recommend watching The Substance ā¤ļø
Sep 29, 2024
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even the smallest things may not seem to matter in the moment, but when you fast forward a bit, you may be trying to grasp the memory without any luck. writing things down, taking pictures, collecting, etc. is all so important.
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my parents used to judge me and think I was weird for talking to myself when I was younger. Iām sure they still do, but theyāre less vocal about it as they used to be. for context, Iām an only child, so talking to myself was nice for when I was bored or whatnot. itās also helpful for sorting through my thoughts. itās good to get things out when I donāt feel like talking to anyone in particular. I like to think of it as my own personal podcast.
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Iām so glad I found this app. I was looking for a place where I can share more about myself without feeling judged by the people around me. now people can feel a connection towards me being truly myself instead of the mask Iāve been conditioned to put on for others. I imagine handing someone Iāve just met a paper with a link to this profile on it as a fun experiment
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