i am not 28, but i am at a point in my life where people are no longer just free to hang out on a whim. i think it has partly to do with the fact that people are busy with their lives, and are actually focused on doing well in school/climbing the ladder at work etc. i don’t think it’s because people don’t care about spending time with you, but maybe it could be a good idea to look into ways to meet new people. making friends as an adult is literally impossible without having some activity you share, so if you’re able to, join a club or group if some kind and attempt to reach out to people there. there’s nothing wrong with trying to make new friends no matter what age you are, and the worst thing that can happen is that yall just end up being acquaintances and you get to continue and meet more people and try to make friends again.
May 14, 2025
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is it just me or does everyone realize that as you get older, you make less and less friends because you don't trust anyone but your closest friends?
i feel like it's so hard to make friends nowdays and it probably not just me who feels this way. everyone prefers to stay cozy at home, mostly watching films or smth instead of going on a coffee and a walk, people are also preoccupied with their own stuff, and rarely anyone wants to go out and have fun ¿
idk it's kinda weird because when i used to think that i would be 18 , i would have a friend group, i wasn't thinking of having one good friend who i only see two times a year...
and i've also noticed that people are chronically online and most of them don't have a social life anyway?? it's actually sad to think because life isn't supposed to be spent on tiktok :/
i think it's time to bring back book clubs or something
or maybe i just don't have friends and needed to yap a bit 😇
Oct 28, 2024
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what ive learned about being a friend and having friends is that sometimes your favorite people and your favorite activities don’t go hand in hand. my closest friends are people ive known forever with 9-5s and families. i live with my parents and work at a pizza shop, i got more free time. i like to go to shows and bars and parties but a lot of my core friends can’t as often. so i ask around, hit up acquaintances and old friends, see if my other friends have anyone they can introduce me to who likes the same things. i think if you’re seeking out people who got the time or the interest, you can find them because they’re probably looking for the same thing.
im a few years younger than you, but i picked this trick up from watching my 55 year old dad call up random people all the time. if someone can’t go out with him, he FINDS someone.
best of luck on the journey of filling your social cup. i know it feels lonely out there but there’s people out there for everyone!
May 16, 2025
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1. Recognize that everyone is looking for connection but nobody wants to be vulnerable first so you have to be the one willing
2. find low cost or free events around your city that meet your interests or that you want to learn more about. Facebook groups are great for this, there’s lots of walking/hiking/running clubs that are super casual and low commitment meant for socializing. Adult rec sports leagues also! you don’t have to be athletic, promise.
3. BE THE PERSON WHO MAKES THE PLAN AND INVITES OTHERS!!! This is by far the most important part. Everyone wants to do something fun but nobody wants to plan it. A good approach is planning something you want to do anyway and asking if they want to join.
4. Feel ok still doing the plan by yourself! Doing new things makes you an interesting person and you will have something new to talk about afterwards
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