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Check in with yourself

What do feel? Where in your body are you carrying your emotions? Many of our patterns are learned behaviors that have helped us get our needs met. Maybe they were behaviors that were better suited for a different environment (like our childhoods), or maybe they have helped us get our needs met a little bit but not in the best or most fulfilling way. First, it helps to know what our needs are so we can connect them to our patterns/behaviors, and our needs reveal themselves in our feelings. I’m a major intellectualizer of my feelings. I can articulate the problems and my motivations and many of the root causes of those problems, but then my therapist would ask “How are you feeling right now?” and I’d have no idea. I would have to *think* about it rather than sit with my body and feel it. Learning to check in with myself helps me to get a clearer picture of what I need. That might start with my physical sensations. Am I tired and need rest? Am I hungry and need food? It can also be about naming emotions. Am I anxious and reassurance? Am I lonely and need connection? Am I feeling overwhelmed and need space? Don’t talk yourself out of what you’re feeling. Not all feelings are capital-T true, especially as they relate to the external world, but all feelings contain truths to what you need and can bring you closer to taking new and potentially healthier actions.

@zenlikeme

Nov 28, 2024

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Feeling and thoughts can be the same

This might be an autism/delayed emotional processing specific rec, but I was often told I overthink things and for a long time I thought I didn’t have feelings like everyone else, just lots of thoughts. I would spend so much time and energy trying to figure out what was a thought and what was a feeling until my therapist just said ”what if I say that it doesn’t matter and the difference is unimportant or non-existent for you?” I can’t tell you how much that changed my life! Thoughts like “this is something that is upsetting” would cause me such confusion because I didn’t feel the upset so I felt I didn’t deserve to address it. But realising that for me recognising that something is upsetting on an intellectual level is how I first realise it’s upsetting me, and it might be days or months or years until I realise how it was emotionally affecting me. So acting, in the moment, as if I can feel the upset (confronting people about things, changing the situation, wallowing, giving myself time etc) is both allowed and means I can process things so i dont only feel them later or realise how they were negatively impacting me. the modern day splitting of thought and feeling into separate worlds is sometimes useless or damaging!

@mouse

Jul 17, 2024

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getting to know yourself

I think continually asking why you want something can help with this. When you do, you may realize the ”it” you want is rooted in other people: how they’ll perceive you, if you’ll be accepted by them, etc. The older I’ve gotten I’ve been better at untangling some of my desires from the ego and I think it has lead to better self-satisfaction of where I am at and where I am going. it’s also allowed me to ”let go” of some dreams. That’s sounds negative or sad but I don’t mean it so: sometimes you white-knuckle-grip an idea of yourself so hard that it destroys you! I think ”letting go” doesn’t mean things won’t happen, it means they don’t have to and that pressure alleviation can make all the difference. That’s not to say to never let the drive of the ego take over…I’m not sure we would create art/great things without it. I guess what I’m saying is that knowing the root of our desires is a key to balance and self-assuredness.

@gretafetacheese

Feb 18, 2025

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NOT MASKING YOUR BAD BEHAVIOR WITH THERAPY TERMINOLOGY

My friend today asked me an amazing question. He said, “Do you think the avoidance thing is specific to our generation or LA specific? Like is someone in Arkansas thinking about anxiety?” Obviously yes someone in Arkansas is thinking of anxiety haha but it made me really think. Our generation is HORRIBLE (me included) at facing shit and taking accountability. It’s all masked underneath this ”therapy talk” shit. Hear me out. Let’s say you have a friend and you’re feeling conflict/tension with them. After a few weeks of them being mean, you confront them about it. They’re passive and not addressing their actions. We would INSTANTLY write them off as “AVOIDANT” versus “A friend who’s hurting me by being shitty even if they don’t intend to.” And yes, that friend is being “avoidant”. But, that’s a simple write off for behavior. Behavior has been so quickly written off to fit into this Therapy Talk. Here’s another example: A girl who really likes someone is attaching to them quickly because she’s excited to get to know them and is having so much fun, she’s moving faster than usually and trying to rush commitment. Society would consider her “Anxiously attached” versus “This girl is really into this person and it’s shifting her choices and actions.“ I think what i’m getting at is, it seems dismissive and avoidant to just simplify these big feelings and actions into these terms when in reality, yes the terms are true. But, we should probably be making space to really talk and express in full detail a persons actions including our own, and get to the bottom of it. The categories can be apart of the larger narrative, but they arent the full reasoning. I hope this made sense lol

@courtnipoe

Nov 27, 2024

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@courtnipoe

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French cinemaaaa

i’m trying to learn french fast (it’s not working hahah) so i’m only watching french films and tv. please send me ur favs <333

@courtnipoe

Nov 24, 2024