Rec | GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF

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Rec'd on 🔮 how did you know you found it?

I think continually asking why you want something can help with this. When you do, you may realize the ”it” you want is rooted in other people: how they’ll perceive you, if you’ll be accepted by them, etc. The older I’ve gotten I’ve been better at untangling some of my desires from the ego and I think it has lead to better self-satisfaction of where I am at and where I am going. it’s also allowed me to ”let go” of some dreams. That’s sounds negative or sad but I don’t mean it so: sometimes you white-knuckle-grip an idea of yourself so hard that it destroys you! I think ”letting go” doesn’t mean things won’t happen, it means they don’t have to and that pressure alleviation can make all the difference. That’s not to say to never let the drive of the ego take over…I’m not sure we would create art/great things without it. I guess what I’m saying is that knowing the root of our desires is a key to balance and self-assuredness.

@gretafetacheese

Feb 18, 2025

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@sleeperhit

this is COMPLETELY what i needed to hear i think. it’s the thing where i probably know what to do on some level but i don’t like the answer lol. you’re so right though, there is no destination and growing out of something you were sure of once doesn’t mean you were wrong. it’s all part of it! unfortunately it’s the journey baby!

Feb 18, 2025

@gretafetacheese

Oh and MOST IMPORTANTLY it is always changing! And you have to change with it! I don’t think life is working up to some arrival point. It sounds exhausting to know there is no final resting spot where you can stop having existential thoughts. But you’ll have moments of the feeling along the way if you let yourself. and it makes the moments of instability easier because you know you’ll return to level ground eventually. This is all easier said than done and I’m only 29. I may eat my words by 30 but I may also land back here (or somewhere else entirely!) by 60—but that’s part of the change! and I think if we want any chance at being happy we have to embrace it because the only constant is change. TLDR; its the journey, not the destination 🤓

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