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this just came back to me after a while. it used to be on repeat in my head like a mantra, even to an unhealthy degree, but i forgot how powerful it can be in moderation.
it’s so simple, so obvious, of course, but there’s a difference between knowing and understanding it. feeling it click is so freeing and like a revelation.
but it feels good to know that you are entirely within your own control (exceptions exist but for the most part) and you can make yourself whatever you want to be. nothing can get inside your head or take your body away from you. there‘s definitely a negative side too, but it feels good to know that.
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I think continually asking why you want something can help with this. When you do, you may realize the ”it” you want is rooted in other people: how they’ll perceive you, if you’ll be accepted by them, etc. The older I’ve gotten I’ve been better at untangling some of my desires from the ego and I think it has lead to better self-satisfaction of where I am at and where I am going. it’s also allowed me to ”let go” of some dreams. That’s sounds negative or sad but I don’t mean it so: sometimes you white-knuckle-grip an idea of yourself so hard that it destroys you! I think ”letting go” doesn’t mean things won’t happen, it means they don’t have to and that pressure alleviation can make all the difference.
That’s not to say to never let the drive of the ego take over…I’m not sure we would create art/great things without it. I guess what I’m saying is that knowing the root of our desires is a key to balance and self-assuredness.
Feb 18, 2025
it’s not separate from me; it’s the vessel I inhabit to navigate the world. I try to avoid things that i know will make me feel physically bad and do things that I know will make me feel physically good. I eat food that feels nourishing and pleasurable for me; I sleep when I need to sleep and move when I need to move.
It’s something I try my best not to think about too much or to assign labels or judgments. It’s changed over the years in many ways and also stayed the same in others.
Most of the external points of comparison we use to examine ourselves are rooted in media standards that are fictitious and manufactured to make us feel bad about ourselves and buy products to fill an endless void of lack.
the societal expectation to LOVE your body is an unrealistic aspiration for many. It can sometimes be better to strive to view it in a neutral way, to be grateful for the things you’re able to do and even just for being here. You only get one life (as far as we know with absolute certainty) so why spend it needlessly criticizing yourself.
Anyway I recommend watching The Substance ❤️
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i find that it's about knowing yourself and who you've always been, then taking that into the world, having new experiences and doing things, and eventually finding little bits of yourself out there in the world. it's easy to forget but hold onto what you love and you'll keep yourself, and if you keep yourself you'll know without question.
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i love being alone. i know who i am when i'm alone and i love myself when i'm alone. when i'm around people it's easy to forget and i get lost and aimless.
how do you share parts of yourself without feeling overexposed? even just sharing creative work makes me feel like it's not mine any more and makes me doubt the part of myself that went into making it. but i also feel so stagnant when i'm not putting anything out into the world. where is the balance? how do you deal with this?
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