I generally enjoy being friendly. Thatās how I see eye contact at that point in my life. I am extra mindful of it now that I have kids because I want to model that for them. Sometimes, I just want to be left alone tho and I project that with my energy. Eye contact is not uncomfortable for me at all. Iām pretty good at reading the vibe and skedaddling if necessary.
I have a problem thoā¦ I canāt see anyone clearly at a certain distance. I really should wear my glasses daily, but I donāt. I just be staring then hit em with the white person smile š
Aug 8, 2024
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Since I was a kid, Iāve never been able to consistently look at ppl in the eye during conversations.
You know when you say a word too many times that it starts losing its meaning and you donāt even know what youāre saying anymore? (re: semantic satiation)
The same thing happens to me with eye contact. If I stare at someone for too long, I start losing sense of their face because Iāve been too hyper focused on looking into their eyes. And if I get too caught up in maintaining eye contact, I risk potentially losing track of what the person was even saying to begin with; which generally just comes off as me being rude/inconsiderate of the other person in the convo.
Iāve definitely gotten better at maintaining better eye contact as Iāve gotten older, but itās still a struggle. I generally have to do a little dance with my own eyes and alternate between looking at different parts of a personās face (or occasionally look elsewhere/fidget with something for a couple of seconds between stares) so that Iām still ālookingā at them most of the time without appearing like Iām uninterested or risk losing focus on what theyāre saying.
Aug 8, 2024
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I'm a well known eye contact avoider. after my college graduation my family had a little celebration dinner with some family friends and my dad got up and made a toast. he started his speech by saying "for years we thought Nicholas was autistic because as a child he would never look you in the eye!" which was very cringe inducing but he had a point i suppose.
i've gotten better about it as i've gotten older and been more intentional with it, but there's definitely a moment where i have to override my instinct to look away. generally i find that when i get going on a topic during conversation i kinda naturally look away from the person i'm talking to, i'm a verbal processor so guess it helps me focus?
Aug 8, 2024
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i struggle with eye contact big time and force it when iām at work so as not to seem rude, but i have to break it constantly before i explode. even if someone is pretty to look at :( i can usually only do it with my closest friends. it makes me very sad because i enjoy connecting and interacting with people sometimes i just wish our eyeballs didnāt have to telepathically kiss when we do it. i like how cats slow blink at you as a way to break eye contact bc they Know. so strangers will not be getting a single eyeball from me.
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In Tarot, The Fool is the first card in the Major Arcana, which represents the life cycle.Ā These cycles we are continuously going through in our lives, not just once.Ā The final card of the Major Arcana is The World (which I have tattooed very large on my thigh), which signifies the completion of a cycle and natural ascension into the next.Ā We are then thrust back into the Fool, with a bit more wisdom.
The Fool as an archetype is one of joy, curiosity, spontaneity, and trust.Ā The Fool is pure of heart, knowing that the Universe has got their back.Ā This innate trust allows The Fool to be playful, to take risks, and truly believe everything will work out.Ā The more we go through life and experience loss, grief, heartache, trauma, the harder it becomes to embrace this energy.Ā Iāve found that as healing goes on, just as itās shown in tarot, we return to this natural state of being.Ā We start off as The Fool when we are wee little babies, and if we are lucky can return there a few cycles at a time, with more wisdom gained each time.Ā Ā
The goal of The Fool is to have positive experiences, maybe for fun, maybe to grow.Ā There is an acceptance with The Fool, a kind of āthis is what is, how can I make this work well for me?ā Everything works out for The Fool because they donāt know it canāt. Anything we go through in life, we can use to grow.Ā I personally believe we all could benefit embracing the archetypal energy of The Fool a bit more.Ā The Fool doesnāt stop to worry what other people will think!Ā The Fool does not fret about what ifās!Ā The Fool is in the moment!
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