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getting older

is it just me or does everyone realize that as you get older, you make less and less friends because you don't trust anyone but your closest friends?
i feel like it's so hard to make friends nowdays and it probably not just me who feels this way. everyone prefers to stay cozy at home, mostly watching films or smth instead of going on a coffee and a walk, people are also preoccupied with their own stuff, and rarely anyone wants to go out and have fun ¿ idk it's kinda weird because when i used to think that i would be 18 , i would have a friend group, i wasn't thinking of having one good friend who i only see two times a year...
and i've also noticed that people are chronically online and most of them don't have a social life anyway?? it's actually sad to think because life isn't supposed to be spent on tiktok :/ i think it's time to bring back book clubs or something
or maybe i just don't have friends and needed to yap a bit 😇

@mihaelajpg

Oct 28, 2024

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I HAVE NO IDEA

I definitely feel like this sometimes but most nights I do loveeeee being alone (in front of the TV). To answer your question, I’ve found that socialization ebbs and flows. The most regularly I was seeing all my friends is when we had standing weeknight meetups like trivia on Tuesdays, watching a show together on Wednesdays, etc. My personal sweet-spot for “spontaneous” plans is 2-4 days in advance. I’d text something like “Having a hard week! Let’s do something fun this weekend” then you can gauge from there :) Trivia is a really good one though it brings people out of the woodwork.

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May 15, 2025

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TRY ASKING YOUR FRIENDS FOR WHAT YOU’RE MISSING INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING YOU DONT HAVE “COMMUNITY”

a big pet peeve I have is people complaining about not having community or only having “party friends” etc BUT are they inviting their existing friends or acquaintances to go out for dinner, go thrifting, watch tv, book club, people watch, day trip, mulberry picking? no, they are not. are they introducing their friends to each other? also not. i hate to be a cliché sometimes you gotta put some work into having the relationships you long for. plus: you’re part of the problem. AND have some appreciation for the friends you have instead of focusing so much in what you don’t.

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how to not go insane when dating

easy: delete the apps, stop dating, consider the things you find interesting/attractive in others and just do those things yourself, hangout with friends, read a book, take a class, take a walk, drink some coffee, drink some water, visit the beach, visit a museum, go to the movies, go to the club, go to bed.

@normieexgirlfriend

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substack & realizing that i’ve never once had an original thought or feeling in my life.

reading a new friends substack and resonating so hard with her post about working to overcome her social anxiety, introversion, and shame to become more comfortable and outgoing. not only did this inspire me that i need to pick up my own substack again, but also that becoming less of a weirdo in social settings is possible for me too 🤞🏼

@normieexgirlfriend

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chicago recs from a former chicagoan

bars: * rainbo club * california clipper * inner town pub * sleeping village * best intentions * the hi-lo * easy does it * outside voices * the owl (but only after the 2am bars close) pizza: * pequods * malnati’s (deep dish is a myth and no chicagoan actually eats that) breakfast: * lula cafe *flying saucer * middlebrow (also for lunch or dinner) * allez cafe * kasama
lunch/dinner: * 90 miles cuban cafe * club lucky * rootstock * all together now * yours truly * elske (fancy, michelin star)
i prob have more but i haven’t lived there in 3 years (plus 2 years of covid) so i haven’t experienced chicago in its full glory since 2019 🥲

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