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Not my immediate response, but this is the decision that has led me closer to happiness.
Choosing yourself can look like a lot of things. In my case, it means/meant giving myself the respect and care to be my own first priority. I used to spend hours waiting for a text back, wondering if they cared about me even a fraction of the way I cared about them, but that didnāt matter. This was an unimportant thought to have. If someone cares about you, youāll know it, and you wonāt have to work to see that.
I have/had some things of my own to work out and thatās been my focus and itās been a positive experience for my own growth :)
Choosing yourself can look like a lot of things. In my case, it means/meant giving myself the respect and care to be my own first priority. I used to spend hours waiting for a text back, wondering if they cared about me even a fraction of the way I cared about them, but that didnāt matter. This was an unimportant thought to have. If someone cares about you, youāll know it, and you wonāt have to work to see that.
I have/had some things of my own to work out and thatās been my focus and itās been a positive experience for my own growth :)
Jul 16, 2025
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š§A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I donāt remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me.
I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that donāt feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, Iāve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share.
Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too.
It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you donāt need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and thatās really cool <3
I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that donāt feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, Iāve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share.
Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too.
It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you donāt need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and thatās really cool <3
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šIn a world and in a political landscape where it is so easy to despair, looking into the eyes of another human being and really listening while they speak means so much. The more you seek connection with others, the more opportunities for joy and belonging will open up to you. It is so easy to feel downtrodden, isolated and afraid nowadays. My own tendencyĀ to isolate in times of stress and sadness has often left me little energyĀ to think outside of myself and my immediate circle. There are times to turn inward, but it is so much more valuable when those times ofĀ reflection are met with connection. I, like so many, have had unhealthy ways of coping with my own traumas and grief, my insecurities and broken heart. Over the last year, I have put in real work to better myself, to respect myself, and in garnering this renewed self-love, I've found I have more to give tenfold. Eating well and moving my body really does wonders, gives me more energy and inspirationĀ to take care of myself, and by proxy those around me. I suddenly want to read more, cook more, engage in more meaningful conversation, take on new projects with friends that will enrich our lives.
I've been feeling so existential and sentimental recently, in an extreme way I've never experienced before, because it is paired with the efforts I've made to treat myself differently and better. For the first time in what feels like a very long time, I actually find myself wanting to make the most of my life, of life in general, instead of lying in wait for some invisible, impending threat,Ā or even merely waiting for things to maybe work out in an acceptable, tepid way someday. I want to make the most of everything. I think this is the key to sustained happiness and hopefulnessāālistening to what your body wants, treating it as well as you can, and using the stamina you achieve to connect with others and be present in the world. It may all be doomed, but I still see beauty around me simply by not turning away from it anymore, enough beauty to really, really believe that it is such an exquisite accident to be alive.Ā
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š¢Iām really tired of people saying āI just need to focus on myselfā. āI have to stop people pleasingā. And other similar things to defend why they bail out of plans/ donāt text back/ donāt show curiosity or care towards me.
Being too inwardly focused isnāt the way to feel better or to heal. Being in community, being reliable, being emotionally available is the way to feel better! Blowing people off because āself careā is shortsighted and mean spirited.
Being too inwardly focused isnāt the way to feel better or to heal. Being in community, being reliable, being emotionally available is the way to feel better! Blowing people off because āself careā is shortsighted and mean spirited.
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Absolutely lurv the colors and itās awesome and was only $2 šš
Havenāt had the chance to wear it yet but will definitely wear it out when the time comes :))
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