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Iām really tired of people saying āI just need to focus on myselfā. āI have to stop people pleasingā. And other similar things to defend why they bail out of plans/ donāt text back/ donāt show curiosity or care towards me.
Being too inwardly focused isnāt the way to feel better or to heal. Being in community, being reliable, being emotionally available is the way to feel better! Blowing people off because āself careā is shortsighted and mean spirited.
Being too inwardly focused isnāt the way to feel better or to heal. Being in community, being reliable, being emotionally available is the way to feel better! Blowing people off because āself careā is shortsighted and mean spirited.
Jun 23, 2024
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ā¤ļøIāve had sprinkles of acquaintances and light friendships with people over the years that I sometimes feel bad about losing touch with. But sometimes itās nearly impossible to keep in touch with everyone and still have time to care for yourself and your core people. Iāve tried to stop apologizing for that and just try to let people know I appreciate them from afar. I feel like the older I get the more intentional I have to be with my time and the more healthy boundaries I need to keep. It may disappoint some, but true friends get it, and there will always be an ebb and a flow as life changes. I also feel like social media has wired us to be so hyper-connected all the time and itās stressful to live up to the expectation of staying in constant communication with everyone youāve met and liked. Growing up is realizing you can like and enjoy the company of many people and you may not have the time or energy to extend to everyone you want. (And actually itās also okay not to want to!) Not everything and every connection can stay the same and I need to constantly remind myself of that. I deserve to make space and time for myself so I can love my people better.
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I was assigned to watch this video in college and it forever changed my life.
My favorite quote: āWeāre all entangled, making each other sick, keeping each other alive.ā
My favorite quote: āWeāre all entangled, making each other sick, keeping each other alive.ā
Mar 13, 2025
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šNot my immediate response, but this is the decision that has led me closer to happiness.
Choosing yourself can look like a lot of things. In my case, it means/meant giving myself the respect and care to be my own first priority. I used to spend hours waiting for a text back, wondering if they cared about me even a fraction of the way I cared about them, but that didnāt matter. This was an unimportant thought to have. If someone cares about you, youāll know it, and you wonāt have to work to see that.
I have/had some things of my own to work out and thatās been my focus and itās been a positive experience for my own growth :)
Choosing yourself can look like a lot of things. In my case, it means/meant giving myself the respect and care to be my own first priority. I used to spend hours waiting for a text back, wondering if they cared about me even a fraction of the way I cared about them, but that didnāt matter. This was an unimportant thought to have. If someone cares about you, youāll know it, and you wonāt have to work to see that.
I have/had some things of my own to work out and thatās been my focus and itās been a positive experience for my own growth :)
Jul 16, 2025
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šI ended up riding the train on a loop because I love the fucking train! the sun shone upon me and I was content
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You guysā¦I am finally a legal driver š I did it!!!
Road trips aheadā¦