I feel like people are more connected than they think and a lot of the time there is something that you and another person enjoy that doesnât take too much digging below the surface
May 28, 2025
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I love to ask what people are currently âin toâ - meaning current inspirations, fixations, interests, etc.
1. Itâs subtle but revealing- I now know what you are interested in and get a hint at how you view life (ex. some interests can be perceived as narcissistic/surface level vs. thoughtful/curious) *Granted, not eveyone will have a good answer (or may not even be able to answer) and that will tell you all you need to know!!
2. Naturally we love to talk about ourselves and our passions so it will certainly keep the conversation going. Extra points for asking questions about what they say (maybe youâre interested, maybe youâre not- but at least itâs not awkward anymore)
May 22, 2025
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Look at them and notice something that they actively chose today. Easy ones are like clothes, bags, jewlery, makeup or whatever. But youâd probably have even better luck with like if theyâre holding a shopping bag or a book or a cup of coffee or the keychain on their keys. idk those are just the examples I thought of. But basically thatâs something intentional, so thatâs something they will have thoughts/feelings/opinions on. Ask a question or make a comment that requires them to reveal that. Like a question you would want someone in your life to ask you about something that you put energy towards, yk? Like for me I always want to talk to people about books Iâve read or that theyve read. Or when Im holding a food or drink I probably could talk about why I wanted that.
But the most important part dude. Is to gauge reaction after that. If they wanna talk more then yay. If not, you gotta let it go donât push. Itâs a them thing, not a you thing.
Sep 10, 2024
