Look at them and notice something that they actively chose today. Easy ones are like clothes, bags, jewlery, makeup or whatever. But youâd probably have even better luck with like if theyâre holding a shopping bag or a book or a cup of coffee or the keychain on their keys. idk those are just the examples I thought of. But basically thatâs something intentional, so thatâs something they will have thoughts/feelings/opinions on. Ask a question or make a comment that requires them to reveal that. Like a question you would want someone in your life to ask you about something that you put energy towards, yk? Like for me I always want to talk to people about books Iâve read or that theyve read. Or when Im holding a food or drink I probably could talk about why I wanted that.
But the most important part dude. Is to gauge reaction after that. If they wanna talk more then yay. If not, you gotta let it go donât push. Itâs a them thing, not a you thing.
Sep 10, 2024
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I love to ask what people are currently âin toâ - meaning current inspirations, fixations, interests, etc.
1. Itâs subtle but revealing- I now know what you are interested in and get a hint at how you view life (ex. some interests can be perceived as narcissistic/surface level vs. thoughtful/curious) *Granted, not eveyone will have a good answer (or may not even be able to answer) and that will tell you all you need to know!!
2. Naturally we love to talk about ourselves and our passions so it will certainly keep the conversation going. Extra points for asking questions about what they say (maybe youâre interested, maybe youâre not- but at least itâs not awkward anymore)
May 22, 2025
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With the focus on them, being genuinely interested in what theyâre saying, with a little humor. Low pressure questions- hobbies, something youâre working on, things to do, favorite restaurants or something. Donât try too hard to force things if theyâre not moving along or theyâre not receptive. You donât want this to feel like a forced work icebreaker thing.
May 21, 2025
bonus points if they get the reference!
extra bonus points if they donât because then i get to dive into the full lore of this interview and my complicated feelings about azealia banks, which always makes for a fun conversation starter. i usually follow up by asking if they have a problematic fave because who doesnât?
iâve found you really canât go wrong talking about things that are deeply personal like music, movies, TV, or anything tied to culture. Theyâre all great entry points! yes, the key is to be genuinely interestedâask questionsâ but also give something back (because letâs face it, sometimes youâre the one making it awkward). I think awkwardness usually comes down to trying to find a balance of reciprocity. is someone talking way too much or way too little? learn to know when the conversation is worth sticking around for and when itâs time to excercise some of that beautiful free will we all have and bounce âđœ.
May 21, 2025
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And talking nonstop about how silent ur being
May 9, 2025
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Saturn just moved from Pisces to Aries and will be there for 3 years! Big planet, big news.
Comment ur rising sign, Aries placements, and/or saturn placements if you want an interpretationđ yall know I love to do that
May 27, 2025
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Do it today you guys itâs a supermoon new moon
Apr 27, 2025