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not to sadpost but i've crossed the line from mostly being glad to not be at my old job anymore and feeling reasonably optimistic about how the search was going, to just feeling so anxious about the future and so terrible about how i've gotten myself into this sort of situation...like it was 80-20 that i was mostly just relieved to be out of there, but a little stressed...and now it's at least 80-20 the other way...i didn't get out of bed until 2 today and that does not feel good or fun at all. i worry that everything i do is 'jobless behavior' and that my friends will stop wanting to associate with me if i don't get a job soon. i just want to feel better about myself and how my life is going. my brother didn't talk to me besides saying a quick hello when my mom facetimed me to talk to everyone the other day. i worry that's because he doesn't have anything to say to me since i got myself fired. will probably delete this soon but damn this sucks major ass

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all you can do is your best! let yourself off the hook. no one is thinking about you/your actions as much as you are (a relief!). make little decisions that will make your days better bit by bit, even if it’s hard at first. the good and the bad times of life are temporary, it’s all fluid. your friends and loved ones connect with you for you! not your occupation.
May 27, 2025
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You saw my other post!! Nobody is hiring for shit rn. Like what @ROYALLMONARCH said your perspective is shaping your perception of everything. Nobody likes or dislikes you any more or less than they already did. People always do the rose colored retrospective ā€œmaybe it wasn’t so bad after allā€ but it WAS so bad or else you wouldn’t have wanted to leave!! Don’t forget that and don’t be so harsh on yourself.
May 27, 2025
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in the same position rn and it sucks but also you can't worry about how other people perceive you. chances are good they don't think about you at all and you're just projecting onto them the voice of your inner critic holding you to some societal expectation of success. stay on a good routine and sleep schedule and do what you gotta do and trust that the work won't be for nothing. the more you give into malaise and boredom the harder it will be to get out. trust me, i've learned this lesson the hard way.
May 27, 2025
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