Not exactly the same situation, but I left my old job for a better job and I was really distraught over disappointing my boss. We had a habit of getting lunch together and grew closer professionally, but it was her idealization of loyalty as a virtue and the intensity of the job that made me ruminate and ruminate too much. Looking back, I was too wrapped up in it and I just needed to make the choice that was right for me and not put other people's feeling or the organization first. As important and talented as you may be, your job will survive without you. As scary as unemployment may be, your boss mistreating you is a symptom of organizational failures. If you haven't tried advocating for yourself yet or having a conversation about it, I would do that before quitting or start actively searching for another job first. Action alleviates anxiety. But there's no need to feel bad about wanting better things for yourself.
May 19, 2025
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I’ve quit at least 4 horrible jobs/contracts without something immediately lined up (that I can think of off the top of my head). And wow every time that was the best decision for me each and every time and I never looked back.
Granted I’ve otherwise had long tenure at jobs and was lucky enough to either find another opportunity right away (in one case quit before hearing back about an interview the previous day, which I did end up getting) or I was financially prepared to be unemployed. As others have said, definitely consider that you’re trading daily misery + salary, health care, stability, stuff to do with your day for no misery + logistical challenges.
But if you are prepared to deal with job searching or just supporting yourself for a bit from your savings while you get on your feet, pls pls pls leave a job that is making you miserable and has no chance of getting any better (burnout is often defined as being in a situation where you have some combination of no upward mobility, continued frustration from the same sources, and endless work all without signs that it’ll get better, so look out for the signs).
Man this rec is giving me the ole itch again (current job is pretty bad in a lot of ways, but not quite “leave immediately” status and I do need a salary + healthcare after a long unemployment period last year 😿).
Mar 15, 2024
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not to sadpost but i've crossed the line from mostly being glad to not be at my old job anymore and feeling reasonably optimistic about how the search was going, to just feeling so anxious about the future and so terrible about how i've gotten myself into this sort of situation...like it was 80-20 that i was mostly just relieved to be out of there, but a little stressed...and now it's at least 80-20 the other way...i didn't get out of bed until 2 today and that does not feel good or fun at all. i worry that everything i do is 'jobless behavior' and that my friends will stop wanting to associate with me if i don't get a job soon. i just want to feel better about myself and how my life is going. my brother didn't talk to me besides saying a quick hello when my mom facetimed me to talk to everyone the other day. i worry that's because he doesn't have anything to say to me since i got myself fired.
will probably delete this soon but damn this sucks major ass
May 27, 2025
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it was so bad and soul sucking it will be really hard to top it off
Apr 27, 2024
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a study issued last month found that dancing is the most effective way of treating and mitigating depression. Walking, therapy, and yoga also outpaced SSRIs. and if you're saying 'oh this was probably funded by Big Dance', there's no evidence of that and if you're saying 'that's just what a Big Dance shill would say', well honey you're right
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Reminder that most of what we do is a performance
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