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Tell me why the stress of trying to find employment isn’t even remotely touching the stress I’d felt at that job
Like I knew in the moment that I was really scared and unhappy, but I still didn’t realize exactly how bad it was until I got out of it
Thinking about how I spent THREE years in constant fight or flight (mostly freeze and fawn actually) is astounding. I can’t imagine whatever my next job is, staying there until 2028! I could but not if I’m that miserable again! Never again!!
May 22, 2025
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I’ve quit at least 4 horrible jobs/contracts without something immediately lined up (that I can think of off the top of my head). And wow every time that was the best decision for me each and every time and I never looked back.
Granted I’ve otherwise had long tenure at jobs and was lucky enough to either find another opportunity right away (in one case quit before hearing back about an interview the previous day, which I did end up getting) or I was financially prepared to be unemployed. As others have said, definitely consider that you’re trading daily misery + salary, health care, stability, stuff to do with your day for no misery + logistical challenges.
But if you are prepared to deal with job searching or just supporting yourself for a bit from your savings while you get on your feet, pls pls pls leave a job that is making you miserable and has no chance of getting any better (burnout is often defined as being in a situation where you have some combination of no upward mobility, continued frustration from the same sources, and endless work all without signs that it’ll get better, so look out for the signs).
Man this rec is giving me the ole itch again (current job is pretty bad in a lot of ways, but not quite “leave immediately” status and I do need a salary + healthcare after a long unemployment period last year 😿).
Mar 15, 2024
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I didn’t want to give a negative example but this story came to mind first.
Let me preface by stating that I live in a “right to work state”, so both parties are not required to explain shit if they decide the employment relationship should be terminated…
After yet another crummy team meeting where management blatantly bullied my coworker (my favorite coworker, might I add) in front of the entire 30 person department, I went back to my desk and started crying lolz.
At that point, I stepped outside thinking I just needed a break to cool off. By the time I was done wiping my tears, I immediately went back inside and began packing up my desk.
The managers were in another meeting so they didn’t notice my departure until I was already halfway home. Panicked calls came through to my phone and I ignored them as I blasted The Front Bottoms. Voicemails came through. Delete.
They fucked around and found out that day. And I realized that the feeling of being stuck was an absolute illusion that kept me trapped in a panicked tunnel vision where freedom waited patiently in the periphery.
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, within reason.
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Sep 26, 2024
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I suddenly woke up within the past week or so and realized I can’t keep letting my life suffocate me (not to sound dark but it is what it is, in a lot of aspects). My brain is trying for the second time to push me into getting fired from a miserable side gig I have by avoiding and procrastinating and making careless mistakes because my heart is just not in it and really, it never was… last time this happened it was my only source of income and there was a great yawning abyss beneath me but luckily now I do have a job that I enjoy and is not stressful where I’m treated with respect and I get to do a lot of things.
All of that is to say that I just turned a project in literally like 30 seconds before it was due (LOL) and I realized I can’t keep doing this to myself so I’ve decided to quit and hope that this opens up space for me to find something better 🙏
Feb 11, 2025
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this photo is from september 2018 and I still haven’t seen anything like it since
May 26, 2025
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That’s just not what we’re doing here
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Did you know that the music used in the “you wouldn’t steal a car” anti-piracy ad was pirated? Apparently the FONT was stolen too lmaoooooo the irony
May 22, 2025