I honestly accept despair as it comes even if it is hard. I learn to cope by creating a schedule so packed I have no time to think about the reality. It works for a moment but ultimately I just try to take despair as a temporary feeling. The feeling can be distracted but will never fully go away no matter how much I fight it. Allow despair but donāt let it consume you watch movies, work on hobbies, write a random story or sit on a bench. simple things can ease despair.
May 22, 2025
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1) meds. after last month being absolutely awful for me (injury, sickness, losing my job), and crying every day for a good two weeks i was told to increase my Lexapro dosage which has helped a lot
2) blocking out the bs. someone on this app told me that when it comes to being an advocate for others, you have to be one for yourself first. if you arenāt mentally sound, then you will most likely not be able to fulfill what you can for others or burn out. i had to come to some realizations lately about politics, international affairs, and the privilege i have to sadly, step back. because when i pay too much attention then i get thrown off. there are things in life you canāt control and coming to terms with that and watching from the sidelines is okay. thatās all to say i try my best to avoid negative stuff when it is forced on to me. i give myself an hour out the week to get informed a bit and tune it off.
3) healthy distractions. find things that make you calm. you donāt have to do something that creates a product or anything. just do something to calm your mind. for me thatās my comfort tv shows
May 22, 2025
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when I realize that feeling this way is just a slump and a temporary rut, thatās half the battle. Perfect Days (2024) is a great example of this. Sometimes things just snowball and little things or obstacles that I would normally breeze by feel insurmountable and full of (bad) meaning. I start to make all these assumptions about myself. But if Iām reminded that itās just a couple bad days and the reactions Iām having are just feelings, I realize it will pass. That allows me to *start* doing something I want to do, or dig in to something I didnāt have the energy for. Doing the dishes, getting outside, taking a hot shower, a hard workout hastens the cloud and it clears eventually. It always does
Nov 25, 2024
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I don't know that you'll ever feel "light" the way you once did again. Life and living comes with weight. Accept that you are going to keep changing and probably never be the same again. That doesn't mean you'll always be in despair, though. That, like the absurd, can be resisted.
One of the biggest problems in our society today is atomization. It strips away your humanity and adds to that despair. Reach out to others, find those that you can rely on and let them rely on you. (Healthy) Interdependence is the best way to have a strong, tight-knit community. Do what you can to help and make a positive impact. Doesn't need to be big or all at once. You can just build slowly. Make the world 0.0001% better every day and you're already doing great.
Make sure you live for yourself, too, and not just improving the world and forming community. Cultivate your tastes, find your hobbies, pursue not just your passions or the greater good but just things you enjoy. Despair comes from stagnation and rot, so allow yourself to grow and flourish.
You may not be light the same way again, but you can be happy and fulfilled. And maybe sometimes it'll be like it was before. And maybe you'll find that things get even better.
May 22, 2025
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i started running with my friend and im so grateful to be moving my body againšš¾ if you guys need motivation to workout please grab a friend it makes it so much more enjoyable.
Mar 27, 2025
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i love burning incense everyday it smells so good. i wish i could burn it 24/7 and carry one around when it smells like pee and shit around the city.
Mar 25, 2025
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this movie seems to be loved or hated butā¦ a real pain was so sad for some reason i couldnāt like help but cry. real life tears in the theater but i felt heard.
Mar 27, 2025