The great thing about physical reality is that there's plenty to observe. What kind of plant do you think that is? This place is cool have you been here before? Check out that crazy looking drink on the menu! Your shoes are cool, where are they from?
Talking about the weather is also a classic for a reason! Point out the temperature, we're all experiencing it. I love when there's a slight breeze like this. You can also reference something you know about the person and ask for more detail. Take a deep breath and share the moment together :)
May 21, 2025
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Can hopefully start/ conti another convo and is better than just bringing up the usual weather
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Look at them and notice something that they actively chose today. Easy ones are like clothes, bags, jewlery, makeup or whatever. But you’d probably have even better luck with like if they’re holding a shopping bag or a book or a cup of coffee or the keychain on their keys. idk those are just the examples I thought of. But basically that’s something intentional, so that’s something they will have thoughts/feelings/opinions on. Ask a question or make a comment that requires them to reveal that. Like a question you would want someone in your life to ask you about something that you put energy towards, yk? Like for me I always want to talk to people about books I’ve read or that theyve read. Or when Im holding a food or drink I probably could talk about why I wanted that.
But the most important part dude. Is to gauge reaction after that. If they wanna talk more then yay. If not, you gotta let it go don’t push. It’s a them thing, not a you thing.
Sep 10, 2024
I love to ask what people are currently “in to” - meaning current inspirations, fixations, interests, etc.
1. It’s subtle but revealing- I now know what you are interested in and get a hint at how you view life (ex. some interests can be perceived as narcissistic/surface level vs. thoughtful/curious) *Granted, not eveyone will have a good answer (or may not even be able to answer) and that will tell you all you need to know!!
2. Naturally we love to talk about ourselves and our passions so it will certainly keep the conversation going. Extra points for asking questions about what they say (maybe you’re interested, maybe you’re not- but at least it’s not awkward anymore)
May 22, 2025
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