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GROWING UP IS DOESNT MEAN LOSING WHO YOU ARE!!

I’m a senior in high school. I’ve always been scared of growing up—change used to twist my stomach. I liked the routine: the same halls, the same faces, the predictability of it all. but now? I want change more than anything. I want to take my exams, get into college, and finally breathe. high school has given me everything it could—every storyline played out. I’ve laughed, cried, gone through every cliché. there’s nothing left to squeeze out of this chapter I remember being a junior, thinking I’d be heartbroken to leave. but I outgrew that feeling faster than I expected… I think rewatching Friends for the fourth time is helping. that show has this way of making me feel okay even when everything’s uncertain. like, maybe it’s fine not to have it all figured out. maybe change isn’t something to fear but something to lean into I want to grow. I want to step into new adventures, new messes, new moments that don’t feel like reruns. I’m still scared, a little. but I want this now change doesn’t mean losing who I am—it means becoming more of who I’m meant to be

@lukrecija

May 6, 2025

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Growing up

maybe it’s just that i’m young enough that the novelty hasn’t worn off yet but i love becoming more of an adult every year. as a teenager i was so terrified of not being one anymore but i love being in my twenties so far. so much of it is uncomfortable and there’s so much uncertainty and still! i wouldn’t go back ever ever ever. being alive is weird and hard and probably always will be but being alive when you have no brain development or any concept of how to do ANYTHING is especially weird and hard. i enjoy being myself so much more now than i did when i was younger; i have more perspective to weather the uncertainty better, i’m so much less insecure and preoccupied with how i come off to other people, and if i want to change my behavior or my life i have so much more freedom to do it! and i’ll only get more conscious and more interesting as i get older! how fucking cool. also as someone who really had to grow into my features it’s a nice bonus that i’ll probably only get hotter and have better skin over the next couple of decades. nice!

@sleeperhit

Feb 13, 2025

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life gets clearer and never stops being messy

mirabelle! congratulations on making it to 16, having an undeveloped brain and going through puberty kinda blows. so i'm proud of you for surviving what might be the weirdest time in your life for self perception, relationships (of any kind), and mood, lols. i'm 31 now. i'll be 32 this year so i'm twice your age! i could really like go AWFF and give you the full run down of my life story but perhaps i'll save that for another post. i actually read this book when i was a teenager called Einstein's Dreams. it's about all these different realities where time behaves differently, it's really cool. it made me think a lot about the future! speaking of Eisntein, time is relative. so each year that passes, goes faster than the one before. 1 year of your life when you're 10 is 1/10 of your life. as you get older that fraction gets smaller and smaller and smaller. sometimes a year feels like 6 months. it's wild. i also recommend you read "4,000 weeks time management for mortals" it's not really about time management, it's about changing your perspective so you can live a life! one thing about life that will always be true no matter what age you are is that it's always going to be messy. you can have your shit together and shit can still go awry. it's how you pick yourself up from that mess and move forward that determines the next phase/step and ultimately the rest of your life! so your frontal lobe does not develop until your 25. your frontal lobe is responsible for basically making sure that you can move through life with a rational mind. at some point you should google "what is the frontal lobe responsible for" and then give yourself hella grace if you are struggling in some of those areas. i low key wish we didn't go to college until we were 25. you are still SO young in your 20s. i still feel like i'm 27. when i turned 25, it was like the fog cleared and suddenly i felt calm. i wasn't so angry (still angry but just less angry) as i was when i was much younger. i had a lot to be angry about, my therapist can confirm this. now this doesn't happen to everyone... but because i'd SEEN some shit when i was younger i have a very different perspective on relationships and the world in general. i dated a really kind, generous, giving man for 10 years from 20-30. when i turned 25 i started really questioning if i should stay in this relationship. he never gave me a huge reason to leave, it was comfortable, safe, and familiar. so i stayed. when i turned 27 things really started to shift. i learned how to properly feed myself so i didn't feel like shit all the time and so my body wouldn't break down and stop working. again, i'd seen and been through some shit as a kid. when my mood improved, i was able to really grow into myself. i started to become the person i dreamed of becoming when i was 8, 9, or 10. i wish i had had the chance to become that person as a teenager, but life doesn't always work like that. and age is dumb and life is (hopefully) long! also if anyone tries to date you that is significantly older than you before you turn 30, RUN. i realized that most of my decisions i made in my late teens into my 20s were done because (a) i was living in survival mode and (b) i was doing what i thought i "should" be doing. as a women and a child of shitty parents, i never learned to put myself first. i never learned how to live for joy, i never learned how to listen to my heart, mind, body, and SOUL. i started to realize i had to leave this relationship because i wasn't happy. and that was enough of a reason and arguably the most important. now i'm rebuilding my life. but, i'm trying to be the person that when i'm 60 (god willing), i'll look back and say thank you for taking care of me and this body and also fuck yeah that's a fucking life!!! those two outcomes don't have to be mutually exclusive. also adults don't know shit. some adults do and some adults DON'T. some adults never mature beyond middle school. i wish i was kidding. i teach middle school science so i work with kids and parents, i am a reliable source on this. learn how to identify the adults that know what they're talking about and are mature and the ones that don't. my advice to you as a yung cherub, if i may, is (1) find your passions and try to make a life out of those passions. or find a job that let's you pay the bills + still follow your passions on the side. this will keep you going. (2) LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. there is a wisdom so ancient within us. it KNOWS. listen to it, nurture it, thank it. (3) make as many friends as possible. close ones, acquaintances, party friends, friends you can vent to, friends you can go on walks with, friends you can pick up right where you left off even if you haven't seen them in years. there's this saying that stuck with me -- "we're all just walking each other home" maintaining friendships is the secret sauce that makes life so delicious. the people you keep in your heart are like the stars that light the sky as we walk each other home (corny alert). also connections RULE and can help you get to where you want to go in life! all the rest of it is pretty meaningless. 🤷🏻‍♀️ so yeah that's about it! i am wishing you an awesome rest of your LIFE!!!! also if you peak in high school and college that's a fucking loooooooong time to be on the decline. stay weird. be different. do you. and love big!

@chronicwebuser

Apr 12, 2025

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LISTS

I <3 keeping track of the things that I love!!! (I have a horrible memory I can’t remember shit). In/Out lists. To/Do lists. Pro/Con lists. Books to read. Movies to watch. Bucket lists. Dreams. anyway shoutout lists 4 acting as my artificial hippocampus fr 🙏🙏

@spilldaktea

Apr 9, 2025

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PULLING ALL NIGHTERS DOING HW AT UR FRIENDS PLACE AND DOING THE WALK OF SHAME HOME AT 8AM TO SLEEP FOR THE REST OF THE DAY

oh to hear the birds chirping at the crack of dawn and seeing the sky get light again while u make the 76th slide for ur google presentation… these r the moments we live 4 😆 (coping) (I graduate next month & will miss it tho)

@spilldaktea

Apr 10, 2025

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BEING INTENTIONAL

im a uni student & i constantly feel like im just going through the motions.. a paper bag drifting through the wind… rather than executing my free will and doing the things i want to be doing. i want to be more intentional with my time and how I spend it bc life is so short!!! life is too short to get caught up and distracted in the constant stimulations from the world & to shrink into a shell of yourself and rot away!! uninstalled instagram today, gonna start with being more intentional about the content that i consume :) in a time where there’s so much constant media out there and a majority of it is quite literal brain rot (soulless corporate advertisement made for a quick 15 second dopamine hit, monetary gain, or an ai copy) rather than art made from the heart… i don’t want to lose touch w that humanity, i want to consume and create people’s intentional art :3 as well as be more intentional with my own actions

@spilldaktea

Apr 7, 2025