Who are you when you aren’t acting the way your friends expect you to? Free from that possibly subconscious pressure what do you do? You can’t exist in a vacuum because we are human beings and socially conditioned (not always a bad thing!) but you can get close when you change up your situation. Observe yourself closely.. where is the divergence between what you think of yourself and what you actually do? Would you have done the same thing in front of your friends? Your parents? Personally I am wildly different with my family, friends, and alone. I like the solo version of myself the best, so I try to spend as much time with him as possible.
This isn’t to say that who you are with others isn’t who you are, that’s an important part of you too!! But if you’re looking to understand yourself as an individual then you need to understand as many aspects as you can. Most people do not do activities alone so I think it is a great place to start.
May 10, 2025
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who are you when you're not performing for people?
try new clothes, new music, new hobbies. Visit new places, try new things and do it all alone. You'll start carving out the person you are. What sticks will stick and what doesn't doesn't. The best part is that you have no pressure to be anybody you're not. You will most likely die still finding who you are. What a joy!
May 10, 2025
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been thinking a lot about self-awareness lately and what makes me “me.” I’m always trying to figure out how to transform my inner critic to real personal growth without shame.
being honest and not editing myself to any given room was one of the first things I began to tackle in therapy. existing among other humans is an ongoing give and take, and Being Who You Are without apology while treating others with respect is really all you need to do in this life. learning how to be kind and true, and finding the good amongst so much bad and then sharing it with others makes the world go ‘round
Apr 16, 2024
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this may be a lifelong project of reorienting and letting go
Nov 12, 2024
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My god everything is experienced better this way. Stop looking at guides, walkthroughs, endings explained (my least favorite), even the blurbs on the back. Such a rare opportunity in this time to go into something without knowing anything about it, yet so rewarding. To be pleasantly surprised or blown away, to have no idea what’s happening, to find that you really didn’t like it, an opinion formed on your own.. nothing is more valuable
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May 4, 2025
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Yes!! I know you so well!!!
Mar 23, 2025