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been thinking a lot about self-awareness lately and what makes me “me.” I’m always trying to figure out how to transform my inner critic to real personal growth without shame.
being honest and not editing myself to any given room was one of the first things I began to tackle in therapy. existing among other humans is an ongoing give and take, and Being Who You Are without apology while treating others with respect is really all you need to do in this life. learning how to be kind and true, and finding the good amongst so much bad and then sharing it with others makes the world go ‘round
Apr 16, 2024
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because wanting to be liked by everyone ALL THE TIME is far too exhausting and never worth it.
“just be yourself” is probably the most basic piece of advice ever given and yet somehow it’s taken me 24 years of my life to finally start considering it. funny how life works!
May 16, 2025
i struggle with this in my day to day life. i mostly exist feeling the world around me through a translucent shelter. this feeling is another me, in a way. they seek to deflect reality from me to some degree, for my own sake. they always know what they should say and when they should say it. they know when silence is appropriate. but, they can only speak for me. and i for them. we are one, but we’ve grown used to operating as a pair all too well. i allow them to guide me through 80% of my life because operating Me is exhausting. mfw im forced to exist in present day america as someone who is probably autistic, probably a trans girl, and probably won’t be certain of either for years to come dadadadada whatever u get it. all that to say this is me practicing being radically honest. so fuck what y’all think (<3) bc i’m real. which brings me to my final point. regardless of whether u want to be me (or anyone else), you can’t. you’re you. and you’re just as real, so fuck what i think (<3).
-fae out 🖕💞
~/~ number of times i hit backspace :3000
May 3, 2025
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I read a TikTok slideshow about how we attach our personalities to the things we buy like Labubu’s, matcha, vintage clothing, etc., etc. and it really woke me up. It made me realize how often we treat objects like identity badges, hoping they’ll somehow communicate who we are to the world. But maybe we don’t need to buy a personality. Maybe it’s okay to just be you without the aesthetic, without the branding, without needing to “match” a vibe.
The phrase “to be cringe is to be free” has been living rent-free in my head, and honestly, it resonates. Because at the end of the day, who really cares what other people think? Okay, I do sometimes. I’m human. But when I quiet the noise, I know the truest version of myself isn’t curated, it’s just me. Messy, weird, sincere. And I think that’s enough.
We’re not the sum of what we consume. We’re allowed to just exist, unbranded, unfiltered, and still whole.
I think I’m not my truest self yet, but I’m getting there and I really do hope my truest self reflects beautifully to the people around me.
Jun 23, 2025
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love treating my shelves like an indie bookstore! the owner has fantastic taste and everything’s free
Mar 3, 2024
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being sincere is in, thinking you’re always the most interesting person in the room is OUT.
take the opportunity to learn from this random human you have crossed paths with at the function. make a big impact with a little, casual convo. what are they into? how did they get into their line of work? what did they eat that day? what is their biggest fear? (lol) small talk is only shallow if you let it be.
tell someone working in a super busy place that they’re doing great and you hope they get a breather soon. compliment an outfit you like when you see it. tell someone when you notice their beautiful smile. quick interactions =/= insignificant
Mar 4, 2024
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very satisfying to prolong the life of things in a world where not very many things are made to last. just applied renovating cream to my blundstones. cleaning my car, sewing up holes or tears in clothing, trimming the wicks of candles, and using slip-on covers for old books fall into this category too
Mar 11, 2024