maybe in the end it was just going, but i think i had always known that i wanted to leave the state i lived in but there were some fears in it to.
I think mainly i made sure i had a place of residence to move to, a commitment to move. I flew to the place to get vibes of the town of the building id be living in before signing anything, then i spent the next few months packing, donating, picking up extra shifts, etc.
I planned out my route as i would be driving a long way to get there, made sure i had enough money plus extra in case anything emergency arose. I spent about a week making the longest playlist to listen to.
When the day came to move it was a bit bitter sweet. I knew new adventures awaited me, i knew the town that i grew up it gave me all it had to offer and i bled it dry and staying would only get me so far.
It took awhile to adjust to the new home, new town, new people, but after a couple of months you eventually find that one take out restaurant you like and become a regular, you start to find your ideal grocery stores, you become friends with the people you work with even if for the then next few months you're only friends at work, holidays come up and it'll surprise you how human some people are and you'll fet invited to a work dinner or simply a dinner with a coworker and then you've made your first official friend.
I could go on but I think it comes down to making sure you are ready, you have some safetys set up incase something gose wrong, always do research then just take the step and next thing you know you'll be in your new home
Mar 30, 2025
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Told my dad another van repair caused our plans to change. We wouldn't be going to Maine. It's too close to winter to be going up North. Instead we'll be staying a few months in Texas on a horse farm.
"Y'all need to just settle down somewhere"
Nearly four years ago I told him our plans to live in a van and travel to different farms for work exchange.
"Now's the time to do it while you're young"
Well it's been a little past three years. The first van kept having issues and we were in an unhealthy living arrangement. Months turned into a year and we weren't welcome anymore. My nesting partner and I were glad the old van even made it three states over to another family member's house.
A few repairs and a second dog later we decided we needed to upsize. This van is also old and needed repairs too but what really kept us here longer was meeting one person that could have made a sad town worth staying in. However, that wasn't in the cards either.
So we're almost four years in to this dream to travel. We've already done a bit of travel if you think about it.
I told my dad "why would I give up on something just cause it's taking longer than I thought it would?"
"You need to put down roots"
I asked what that meant to him.
"Get a home"
Ah, well the van is my home.
If there's one thing I've learned over these last few years, my family is living miserably, going to jobs they only tolerate, to the point of exhaustion, to then sit in an expensive house and watch TV every evening. They have no connection to their community.
I want to see different towns, meet people, get an idea of the community I would be living in long term. I want to be intentional with where I put my roots.
So however long it takes, home is where I am and it's where I'll be in the end.
Sep 30, 2024
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Really helped me see my hometown through fresh new eyes, and appreciate things about it I took for granted!
It also made me feel like I could bring all of me that has developed since I left the city back into it instead of purely regressing into my teenage self๐ฅณ
May 21, 2024
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Last year in July, I left my whole life in Paris. My parents cut me off and stopped paying for my flat in the city and I was so depressed about it all. I used to go out a lot, party in the coolest places with my friends whom I adored... I had to leave all of it behind, the glitter and the joy. I moved to a place in the middle of nowhere with my boyfriend, like literally sheeps right behind my house haha. Everything was hard, I had to do physical labor that I never experienced before and I was bored out of my mind.
Connection is not the best here so I had to pick up something to do. I went swimming a lot, I started making pearl bracelets like my mom did in the 70's in the DRC when she was a kid. It felt nice :) We adopted a stray cat and named him plantain in lingala "Makemba", his owner had left him behind. My parents and I made peace, we all grew up...
I'm moving back to Paris to resume law school after years of wandering in the abyss of my future. I'll miss the sheeps, the big tree in out backyard, coloring books and sleeping with the door open. What I thought was the worst punishment of my life grew to become bittersweet memories... Even when everything is shit, something nice can come out of it... I wish I knew that when I was crying cause I didn't want to leave ๐ธ
Aug 1, 2024
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Find happiness in the little things. Bask in the sun rise, take a moment to people watch grocery shopping or a cafe. Go on drives to nowhere in particular with your favorite playlist blasting. Read plays to a stuff animal audience and really dramatize the characters.
Jan 20, 2025
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I was uncertain if i met all the credit requirements as i had to petition alot of classes but my graduation application went through so I'll be graduating!
Jan 25, 2025
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We have one dying strip mall in this town and my friends and I just go there to wonder the few open stores left. We don't by anything we just peruse the places, make small talk with the shop keepers, sit and chat about the closed down shops on the benches.
I also frequent the antique stores, and just look at the history thats brought in. Sometimes the store keeper drops by while you look and offer facts on some of the items.
They get me out of the house and keep my mind off work and they're sometimes more accommodating than a coffee shop.
Jan 20, 2025