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maybe in the end it was just going, but i think i had always known that i wanted to leave the state i lived in but there were some fears in it to.
I think mainly i made sure i had a place of residence to move to, a commitment to move. I flew to the place to get vibes of the town of the building id be living in before signing anything, then i spent the next few months packing, donating, picking up extra shifts, etc.
I planned out my route as i would be driving a long way to get there, made sure i had enough money plus extra in case anything emergency arose. I spent about a week making the longest playlist to listen to.
When the day came to move it was a bit bitter sweet. I knew new adventures awaited me, i knew the town that i grew up it gave me all it had to offer and i bled it dry and staying would only get me so far.
It took awhile to adjust to the new home, new town, new people, but after a couple of months you eventually find that one take out restaurant you like and become a regular, you start to find your ideal grocery stores, you become friends with the people you work with even if for the then next few months you're only friends at work, holidays come up and it'll surprise you how human some people are and you'll fet invited to a work dinner or simply a dinner with a coworker and then you've made your first official friend.
I could go on but I think it comes down to making sure you are ready, you have some safetys set up incase something gose wrong, always do research then just take the step and next thing you know you'll be in your new home
Mar 30, 2025
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โญTold my dad another van repair caused our plans to change. We wouldn't be going to Maine. It's too close to winter to be going up North. Instead we'll be staying a few months in Texas on a horse farm.
"Y'all need to just settle down somewhere"
Nearly four years ago I told him our plans to live in a van and travel to different farms for work exchange. "Now's the time to do it while you're young"
Well it's been a little past three years. The first van kept having issues and we were in an unhealthy living arrangement. Months turned into a year and we weren't welcome anymore. My nesting partner and I were glad the old van even made it three states over to another family member's house.
A few repairs and a second dog later we decided we needed to upsize. This van is also old and needed repairs too but what really kept us here longer was meeting one person that could have made a sad town worth staying in. However, that wasn't in the cards either.
So we're almost four years in to this dream to travel. We've already done a bit of travel if you think about it.
I told my dad "why would I give up on something just cause it's taking longer than I thought it would?"
"You need to put down roots"
I asked what that meant to him.
"Get a home"
Ah, well the van is my home.
If there's one thing I've learned over these last few years, my family is living miserably, going to jobs they only tolerate, to the point of exhaustion, to then sit in an expensive house and watch TV every evening. They have no connection to their community.
I want to see different towns, meet people, get an idea of the community I would be living in long term. I want to be intentional with where I put my roots.
So however long it takes, home is where I am and it's where I'll be in the end.
"Y'all need to just settle down somewhere"
Nearly four years ago I told him our plans to live in a van and travel to different farms for work exchange. "Now's the time to do it while you're young"
Well it's been a little past three years. The first van kept having issues and we were in an unhealthy living arrangement. Months turned into a year and we weren't welcome anymore. My nesting partner and I were glad the old van even made it three states over to another family member's house.
A few repairs and a second dog later we decided we needed to upsize. This van is also old and needed repairs too but what really kept us here longer was meeting one person that could have made a sad town worth staying in. However, that wasn't in the cards either.
So we're almost four years in to this dream to travel. We've already done a bit of travel if you think about it.
I told my dad "why would I give up on something just cause it's taking longer than I thought it would?"
"You need to put down roots"
I asked what that meant to him.
"Get a home"
Ah, well the van is my home.
If there's one thing I've learned over these last few years, my family is living miserably, going to jobs they only tolerate, to the point of exhaustion, to then sit in an expensive house and watch TV every evening. They have no connection to their community.
I want to see different towns, meet people, get an idea of the community I would be living in long term. I want to be intentional with where I put my roots.
So however long it takes, home is where I am and it's where I'll be in the end.
Sep 30, 2024
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๐งฉmoved to a new small city with only my partner & no connections post grad for a year. and now we are getting the fuck out of here and starting anew in a new bigger city with (what i hope are) some sprouts of community. and these two months pre move are so weird in energy, in this place we made no real connections in, with so much more potential life & stimuli in a new city.
and i put together, that it has been a fucking pandemic year. thatโs why itโs all so weird. we moved here and itโs been a quarantine ass year. and choosing to leave that, stability and nothingness, is freaky as fuck too.
and i put together, that it has been a fucking pandemic year. thatโs why itโs all so weird. we moved here and itโs been a quarantine ass year. and choosing to leave that, stability and nothingness, is freaky as fuck too.
Jul 5, 2025
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๐ซReally helped me see my hometown through fresh new eyes, and appreciate things about it I took for granted!
It also made me feel like I could bring all of me that has developed since I left the city back into it instead of purely regressing into my teenage self๐ฅณ
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๐Find happiness in the little things. Bask in the sun rise, take a moment to people watch grocery shopping or a cafe. Go on drives to nowhere in particular with your favorite playlist blasting. Read plays to a stuff animal audience and really dramatize the characters.
Jan 20, 2025
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๐I was uncertain if i met all the credit requirements as i had to petition alot of classes but my graduation application went through so I'll be graduating!
Jan 25, 2025
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๐I read a book about volcanos growing up and that stuck with me for suck a long time, then i read my grandpas old astrology book and i very much remember how upset i was when they announced Pluto wasn't classified as a planet anymore and i was set to be the one to give Pluto back its title. Now ironically I study marine science, and im currently in school to now look at underwater volcanos and hydro thermal vents, which have some similar chemical components to that of what is in space so i guess it balanced out.
Feb 7, 2025