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Really helped me see my hometown through fresh new eyes, and appreciate things about it I took for granted!
It also made me feel like I could bring all of me that has developed since I left the city back into it instead of purely regressing into my teenage self🥳
May 21, 2024
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🏡I went home for the weekend and I loved it. I used to hate going home but tbh it’s so fun to explore surrounding areas now that I’m not a kid, it’s healing growing to love the area I grew up in:,)
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🏡I used to think it sucked, and hated feeling like people looked down on me for staying (for reference, everyone I knew at school left after). But I basically had to rebuild myself and social life after school in the same way that being in a new environment would be. And you know what, give a fuck! even though in every film being the girl that stays at home is a freak, my life has become so full and loving… let that freak flag fly:))))
May 11, 2025
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🏘as a teen i used to avoid hanging around town in case i bumped into someone i know and/or i went to school with. i hated it here and dreamt of one day leaving but of course that never happened, now not only do i love it but working at the local library means i'm actively participating in society. after only three shifts i've bumped into distant relatives, old classmates, my former male best friend and the only boy i've ever had a crush on. it was so crazy. but seeing them after ten years or even more.... was actually nice. i can't believe i'm saying this. i already know my life is gonna be so different after this one year experience
Jun 8, 2025
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Think: driving them to the airport during rush hour, moving furniture on a summer day, (in my case, see photo) cutting away at their badly overgrown garden when you are not a gardening gal. Or painting their bedroom on a whim, replacing their windshield fluid, or wrangling their demon cat for a trip to the vet.
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
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❤️My heart goes out to you and your family, this kind of this is never easy and is generally pretty fucking terrible all around. I lost my mom in 2018 after a pretty prolonged and slow to cease battle with cancer.
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛