⭐
i say this as a man myself, and so i also fit the description, i''m sure.
Yesterday at work, we had finished early but are contracted to stay on site premises till the shift ends - for safety reasons. I was talking to a few work friends about life and one of them starts going off... "Mate i fucking it, my girlfriend and me got into an argument because she wants to go to a festival and i'm not letting her. She's just gunna go and fuck a load of men there". Bit of a weird thing to be thinking about your gf but hey, no judging. I then ask "does your girl actually like the music at the festival" and the reply i get is "Yeah, she loves all the bands that are playing"
How insecure you gotta be to not let your girlfriend go to a festival with her friends because you think she's going to cheat on you?? wtfffff
Mar 11, 2025
Related Recs
🌀
A lot of my friends (myself included) got married young; I myself locked down marriage by 22. What I’ve noticed is that when you’re married younger, you don’t get to develop into the generalized stereotypical douche bag archetypes that guys hit in their 20’s — indie sleeze ball, frat bro with allegations, overly into himself athletic dude, guy who is too niche into their hobbies, neighborhood womanizer, etc.
This doesn’t mean we’re perfect, just means we missed out on what could be peak horrific boy era that you see from 21-30. What has been weird though is seeing how many guys in that age range now are leaning into the…again STEREOTYPED incel/incel adjacent persona. It’s so strange. I don’t associate myself with many of these guys but I sure do see them (and hear about them) from my friends.
Tie that into the stereotype that men shouldn‘t go through therapy (for myself, inherited from a strong immigrant father who has done hard labor since 19) and you’ve got a really messed up bag of guys out there.
They either are horrible humans overall, or are just oblivious to what it means to be a normal person, or are in their own headspace and don’t understand why others aren’t thinking like them, or have fallen deep into weird religious and/or political movements that pins them as the victims.
In short: no, men are not okay.
May 24, 2025
🧔
ok maybe I shouldn't be so gender specific but hear me out. idk what it is but men will have exactly what they want in front of them. a cookie, a job, a woman, ANYTHING. if it comes in a way that feels slightly "too easily" to them they won't accept it. Vs: I find that most women live in an abundance mindset and are often open to receiving. And then women are taught things like "Men love bitches. Be hard to chase etc." which there's so much truth to that. Yeah, a healthy level of unavailability fosters attraction. But I think theres a deeper issue here and i'm only speaking on it because I find that I often become a symptom of a man's self deprivation.
To me it seems Men feel if there's no level of aggressive struggle or hardship to get the thing they want it's either "not real" or "they can't have it because they'll lose it too fast." It makes me question if it's a level of social media's illusion of options? How we as a society accept good things that arrive to us? At what level is chasing something and fighting so relentlessly that it's "enough" for your satisfaction and sense of reward and it feels valid?
shit drives me crazy.
I know you guys will cook me for this opinion but curious on your take.
May 10, 2025
😵
‘alpha males’ can go fall off a cliff.
like, excuse me?
i only want you if you’re OBSESSED with me??? tf out of here with your nonchalance??????
i want you to not be able to breath, eat, or SLEEP because im the only thing occupying your mind???
why would i want a you to play hard to get?? if you’re not giving gomez addams energy then why are you here?
i want my name to be your last breath and i want my smile to be the light you crave when you’re alone in the dark.
don’t tell me about the other girls that want you because idgaf.
alpha male philosophy is the dumbest shit i’ve ever heard of—your partner should be your best friend until the end, not your maid or your child incubator
Feb 17, 2025
Top Recs from @Rattlesnake
Apr 27, 2025
noticing life and slowing things down has helped with every stress my body has, it's also got me going on walks to places i've never been before. I go alone and do walkie talkies sometimes too, which is like an audio journal log. i also get some cool pictures out of it.
May 7, 2025
⭐
waking up at 7am today has been a painfully dreadful existence, and i've only been awake for 52 minutes. How do people do this?
Apr 20, 2025