I realized I have only been on dates with/in relationships with writers & artists, and I didn't even do that on purpose. Most of my friends are creative people as well, so I guess that tracks. I love smart people/nerds, but there's many different types of nerds and many different types of intelligence, and I feel like I'm not really drawn to someone if they're not creative on top of that. Even if their self-expression is in the form of fashion or something, it just has to be present strongly and earnestly somehow.
Of course there's more qualities that are important & essential on top of this factor, but it seems to be a common thread for me.
Mar 9, 2025
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We are not gonna, as human yes we are attracted to the physic, blue eyes or brown eyes, fit or a bit bulky, good sense of fashion or casual, good haircuts etc …
But that is just an image that makes you interested (attracted) but does it make you stay ?
For me personally i tend to know the person before i “judge” that i am attracted to them, i don’t look for perfection or someone who is HOT, if you have a food hygiene i am interested.
Now what makes me stay is knowledge! Yes tell me when was the first tomato sauce made and who got the idea ! Which animal is related to a dinosaur! Feed me knowledge.
Emotional intelligence as well ! When a person understands that my “offline” moments are for me and nothing personal or when i just shut up which means i am drained socially and not just mad or smth
Yes ! Thats my type !
To feel seen !
Feb 27, 2025
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I like a slight shyness but i also like slight confidence
Unique piercings or tattoos are really attractive, or if they do their make up like art and not generically (is that a word?)
Unique noses, too! Or when one tooth is missing or their teeth are crooked, i think thats attractive.
Raspy or soothing voices, when they speak calmly and at ease
I love when a person has big people word vocabulary and knows how to use it. intelligence is really attractive, and it's cute sometimes when they do it in a ☝️🤓 way. When they know more than 1 language, aswell
God, when they have "grandma" hobbies like crocheting or baking, maybe even reading (Using grandma really loosely in this context)
This could go on and on
Jul 10, 2024
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I love a person who knows who they are and what they like and what they are good at, but also respects other people and is kind. I also have a dry sense of humor so people who can match that always get me. But this doesn't necessarily mean loud or outgoing, I have liked people who are and who are not.
I just feel like secure and confident is the hottest thing a person can be. Thoughtful and competent is a close second. People who can share the responsibility and help make a plan or make decisions. I don't know if it's just me but I feel like that's a rare quality, and it's nice to have someone be able and willing to put on the work to see you and have a good time.
Feb 26, 2025
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I love doing collages, cuz all you really need are magazine cutouts and glue. There's a very low barrier to entry, skill-wise AND supply-wise, unlike painting. Digital collages are fun too, but I try to have less screentime by doing the paper ones. If I want to re-use pieces instead of gluing them down permanently, sometimes I'll just take a picture of the current arrangement to immortalize it, and then start over on a new composition. That way, I don't have to constantly buy new magazines to get new cutouts. This is one of my favorite ones I've done so far:
Aug 22, 2024
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This is the only thing that keeps me sane at work. It's so slow right now. If anyone is wondering why I've posted like 9 times today.
Mar 9, 2025
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i always get stuck choosing which stuff to watch/read/get into next when i look at my huge former watchlists & TBR's. a lot of items are things i put on there years ago and never got around to, so usually by the time i check the list again, my tastes have totally changed. i realized it was hard to get myself excited or motivated about half the stuff i put on there anymore, but i felt indebted to knocking it out anyway just because it was on the list. i'd recommend letting your current feelings/impulses take the wheel, and trust that you'll come back around to any of the other options if they're right for you later on.
Apr 18, 2024