We are not gonna, as human yes we are attracted to the physic, blue eyes or brown eyes, fit or a bit bulky, good sense of fashion or casual, good haircuts etc …
But that is just an image that makes you interested (attracted) but does it make you stay ?
For me personally i tend to know the person before i “judge” that i am attracted to them, i don’t look for perfection or someone who is HOT, if you have a food hygiene i am interested.
Now what makes me stay is knowledge! Yes tell me when was the first tomato sauce made and who got the idea ! Which animal is related to a dinosaur! Feed me knowledge.
Emotional intelligence as well ! When a person understands that my “offline” moments are for me and nothing personal or when i just shut up which means i am drained socially and not just mad or smth
Yes ! Thats my type !
To feel seen !
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I like a slight shyness but i also like slight confidence
Unique piercings or tattoos are really attractive, or if they do their make up like art and not generically (is that a word?)
Unique noses, too! Or when one tooth is missing or their teeth are crooked, i think thats attractive.
Raspy or soothing voices, when they speak calmly and at ease
I love when a person has big people word vocabulary and knows how to use it. intelligence is really attractive, and it's cute sometimes when they do it in a ☝️🤓 way. When they know more than 1 language, aswell
God, when they have "grandma" hobbies like crocheting or baking, maybe even reading (Using grandma really loosely in this context)
This could go on and on
Jul 10, 2024
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I realized I have only been on dates with/in relationships with writers & artists, and I didn't even do that on purpose. Most of my friends are creative people as well, so I guess that tracks. I love smart people/nerds, but there's many different types of nerds and many different types of intelligence, and I feel like I'm not really drawn to someone if they're not creative on top of that. Even if their self-expression is in the form of fashion or something, it just has to be present strongly and earnestly somehow.
Of course there's more qualities that are important & essential on top of this factor, but it seems to be a common thread for me.
Mar 9, 2025
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I love a person who knows who they are and what they like and what they are good at, but also respects other people and is kind. I also have a dry sense of humor so people who can match that always get me. But this doesn't necessarily mean loud or outgoing, I have liked people who are and who are not.
I just feel like secure and confident is the hottest thing a person can be. Thoughtful and competent is a close second. People who can share the responsibility and help make a plan or make decisions. I don't know if it's just me but I feel like that's a rare quality, and it's nice to have someone be able and willing to put on the work to see you and have a good time.
Feb 26, 2025
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I can’t find the Creator and i am mad about it because i wanna credit the one who made sure to put this for free.
I’ve found this website RetroPrint where they show the details of how you can make a Windows 95 customised theme on your phone (with over 800 icons app to choose from 27 of them are already made for the modern apps like netflix twitter etc - some graphics for the widgets too And 3 sounds.)
Jan 30, 2025
If there is one style that literally calms me is stippling.
The endless dots, the slow process, the nuance effect, the final results.
I just love it and appreciate it even more when i spend hours/days to finish one.
Jan 13, 2025
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The fact that i can stay in bed warm with my phone or laptop and music in the background as i watch my favourite movies/series/youtube vids with a warm tea is simple enough to make me grateful for wherever i am today.
Worrying about what I should wear to work is a beautiful thing because it’s a privilege that sadly some people can’t afford :(
Complaining about to cook is a beautiful thing because someone somewhere sadly can’t even afford/have access to a simple bread piece.
Literally feeling the warmth of the sun while standing waiting for the bus is a beautiful thing to cherish and be grateful for.
Jan 11, 2025