Rec | FOCUSING ON LOVE IN GRIEF

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my mom passed away last year, and today would have been her 54th birthday
so, i grabbed ice cream and i took it to the river. my mom and i used to get ice cream and eat it by the river a lot. my mom loved ice cream. chocolate ice cream. and she loved rivers. i also love rivers. they remind me of my mom.
grieving is hard. and it’s hard every single day. but taking moments like this — to do things that my mom and i loved to do together — reminds me of how grief is just love with nowhere to go.
today i’m basking in the love that my mom had for me, the love she had for ice cream, for rivers. and i’m sitting in how much i love her. a love that feels trapped inside me. buried. most days it feels like anger and despair and regret. but today i’m focusing on the love. how lucky i was to have a mom who made loving her so easy!
happy birthday, mom. i love you immensely

@paiton

Feb 7, 2025

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@SubstanceEnjoyer

Thanks for sharing! My dad passed away end of 2020 and I still have to remind myself that he’s gone and that a lot of time has passed. Love is forever and I’m glad you can still channel it. Hope you have a wonderful anniversary.

Feb 8, 2025

@bigstrongguy

thank you for sharing her and your love with us. sending you so much love and remembering ❤️

Feb 8, 2025

@softshelled

This is really so beautiful, thank you very much for sharing with us. Sending you kind vibes. My Dad passed away almost two years ago now. Grief isn’t linear, and I’m still finding little reminders of him in the strangest (and funniest) places. My Mum is getting older, I’m scared honestly, we’re very close. She’s had some health issues and I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. Not too sure on the concept of an afterlife, but, I don’t know, it feels like memories still permeate everything someone’s ever touched. I try to hold the thought with me that every vibration of energy that was a person is still a part of the life we continue to live. That every photon, every beam of light who’s path was changed by that person’s shape, or by the touch of their smile, and then raced off to the corners of the universe, with their paths forever changed by that person’s shape, will be a part of this universe, long after we’re all gone.

Feb 8, 2025

@royallmonarch

love that you have this ritual to hold her with you for a moment

Feb 7, 2025

@thenheturnedaround

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Feb 7, 2025

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