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You never really prepare for how violently fast it can be too. We end a relationship or friendship on a Monday morning, and by that afternoon you've seen something that reminds you of them. Tuesday comes and you hear their favorite song. Thursday night you see a stupid video that you know they'd love. A week passes, a month, or even a year and you get better and move on and forget and then you hear their name on a TV show and you're brought back to them and you realize their birthday passed and they're older now and you don't know them anymore.
i have always known this. that people come and go. but it was only recently that this statement really⌠struck me. i guess that no matter how much you want people to stay in your life, sometimes itâs just inevitable. though it was hard at first to let go of âyour personâ, i also realized that relationships are maintained by more than just one person.
so no matter how much you want to keep those people in your life, to save the relationship and connection that you have, at the end of the day, they also have a say in what they feel and what they want. and if what they want is to be out of your life, then the best thing that you could do is to accept and respect that.
itâs the best thing that you could do. not only for them, but also for you.
Dec 31, 2024
Dec 31, 2024
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most days itâs fine but then I listen to âbetween the barsâ by Elliot Smith and it takes me back to last year when I still had them. Even when my heart yearns for the familiarity of our old bond I know weâll never laugh like we used to do. What a pity is to be a human and to know someone for so long and then be strangers.
Mar 9, 2025
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the concept of time can be comforting, but also scary at the same time. itâs a comfort, knowing that your wounds would slowly close itself up as time passes by. but itâs also scary, that when you think about it, we really are only insignificant beings, in the face of time.
it is both scary and comforting, when i realized how easy it is to move on from the past. people that you once thought couldnât live without, suddenly become a supporting character in one of your chapters of life. the name that you swore would never forget, suddenly becomes âthat one friend that i had back in high school.â
and whatâs even scarier, is that, sometimes it is beyond our control. time just⌠took them away from us without our consent. names, places, memories. and most of the time, we wouldnât even feel the loss and grief that shouldâve come with losing them.
Jan 11, 2025
Sometimes it just pops out of nowhere, sometimes itâs just a passing memory and sometimes out of the blue I feel the weight of what happened. I had a best friend, a person with which I connected in a way I never did with anyone. She moved out of the city and with that she stopped any communication with me. I miss her. I miss her so much. I feel like I must have fucked up big time for this to be happening. In our last call I told her I was worried we would lose contact with the distance and she told me it would never happen. I believed her. Itâs a weird sadness; most of the time I can see clearly that more than try to text her I cannot do much and Iâm angry or confused about the situation but it passes, I go by my day. But sometimes this wave of sadness arrives and I remember how she made me laugh, how she looked at me, the day we actually talked like friends for the first time and then it hits me that we might have spoken for the last time. how could that be? I still believe her. One day sheâll call me and my memories of today will fade and get replaced by others of us together.
I should have called her more, told her more times how I loved her, how she was beautiful, we should have gone to more concerts together, we should have said yes to that dude who wanted to interview us for a tiktok. We should have when there still was a we.
One day talking about relationships, I mentioned how incapable I am at letting go and how sometimes I start to resent the person I canât let go for the things we do to each other. So maybe itâs all for the best, maybe Iâm being spared, maybe it will save our memories from being tainted, maybe thatâs all the time meant for us. I donât know but I wish I did.
Jan 18, 2025
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Donate, sell, or toss things. If you haven't used it in the last 6 months? Gone. If it doesn't fit? Gone. If you don't know what it is? Gone. But it goes beyond removing things, you have to learn to then fight the urge to over-consume again. Richard Foster says this -- "Overconsumption is a "cancer eating away at our spiritual vitals." It cuts the heart right out of our compassion. It distances us from the great masses of broken bleeding humanity. It converts us into materialists. We become less able to ask moral questions. For example, just because we have the economic muscle to buy up vast amounts of the world's oil, does that give us the right to do so? When the poor farmer of India is unable to buy a gallon of gasoline to run his simple water pump because the world's demand has priced him out of the market, who is to blame?" -- Overconsumption is a plague that starts with owning too many t-shirts but leads to the oppression of the poor and disenfranchised. We would do best to fight the plague at the start and become people who are less dependent on the ownership of things. Donate, sell or toss.
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