Envision the future you that you want to become and then reverse engineer what that transformation could look like, breaking it down into small steps and starting with the ones that are easiest for you to do right now. it’s much less overwhelming to accept that you don’t have to do everything at once! And as you start to accomplish little things, brick by brick, you can feel better about yourself and see it as proof that you are in fact capable of improving! Reward yourself for hitting certain milestones.
Change can and will be scary and that’s a good thing because it means you’re leaving the familiarity of your comfort zone. Best of luck!!
Dec 9, 2024
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Today I was talking to something of a life coach, kind of a group mentorship session I attended, and one thing stuck with me. I was told that sometimes, we see the step we need to take towards actualizing our dreams, but we often worry or grow fearful of how our future self might mess up the opportunity, or fail, or disappoint. And the advice I was given, was to simply put some trust in your future self.
Trust that the version of you after you take that initial step will have more passion, more experience, more dedication, and especially, will have the capability to solve whatever problems may arise at said point in the future. As someone who deals with thinking too far ahead and contemplating the bad outcomes, that was immense advice. Just trust who you are going to become to do what is needed and move forward.
hope that helps!
Nov 7, 2024
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It won't happen over night. You'll need to chose what you value and make incremental changes in line with that value—discarding habits and behaviors that don't fit and replacing them with ones that do. These are small things. And you don't add another until the first is second nature. Do this humbly and quietly. Then one day you'll look up to find you are changed.
Feb 14, 2025
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given that you’ve already started the pivot, it seems like you just need a lil pep talk. here it goes: you are exactly the right age to be taking on new challenges. sure, theres some risk involved. but time is 100% on your side, and the fastest way to self-actualize is to operate outside your comfort zone.
just take this one day at a time and don’t stress about the unknowable future. its a waste of energy you could be dedicating to learning and growing here in the present. it will work out. it usually always does.
Aug 5, 2024
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My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
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May 28, 2025
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I’ve been thinking about how much of social media is centered around curating our self-image. When selfies first became popular, they were dismissed as vain and vapid—a critique often rooted in misogyny—but now, the way we craft our online selves feels more like creating monuments.
We try to signal our individuality, hoping to be seen and understood, but ironically, I think this widens the gap between how others perceive us and who we really are. Instead of fostering connection, it can invite projection and misinterpretation—preconceived notions, prefab labels, and stereotypes. Worse, individuality has become branded and commodified, reducing our identities to products for others to consume.
On most platforms, validation often comes from how well you can curate and present your image—selfies, aesthetic branding, and lifestyle content tend to dominate. High engagement is tied to visibility, not necessarily depth or substance. But I think spaces like PI.FYI show that there’s another way: where connection is built on shared ideas, tastes, and interests rather than surface-level content. It’s refreshing to be part of a community that values thoughts over optics.
By sharing so few images of myself, I’ve found that it gives others room to focus on my ideas and voice. When I do share an image, it feels intentional—something that contributes to the story I want to tell rather than defining it. Sharing less allows me to express who I am beyond appearance.
For women, especially, sharing less can be a radical act in a world where the default is to objectify ourselves. It resists the pressure to center appearance, focusing instead on what truly matters: our thoughts, voices, and authenticity. I’ve posted a handful of pictures of myself in 2,500 posts because I care more about showing who I am than how I look.
In trying to be seen, are we making it harder for others to truly know us? It’s a question worth considering.
Dec 27, 2024