Envision the future you that you want to become and then reverse engineer what that transformation could look like, breaking it down into small steps and starting with the ones that are easiest for you to do right now. it’s much less overwhelming to accept that you don’t have to do everything at once! And as you start to accomplish little things, brick by brick, you can feel better about yourself and see it as proof that you are in fact capable of improving! Reward yourself for hitting certain milestones.
Change can and will be scary and that’s a good thing because it means you’re leaving the familiarity of your comfort zone. Best of luck!!
Dec 9, 2024
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Today I was talking to something of a life coach, kind of a group mentorship session I attended, and one thing stuck with me. I was told that sometimes, we see the step we need to take towards actualizing our dreams, but we often worry or grow fearful of how our future self might mess up the opportunity, or fail, or disappoint. And the advice I was given, was to simply put some trust in your future self.
Trust that the version of you after you take that initial step will have more passion, more experience, more dedication, and especially, will have the capability to solve whatever problems may arise at said point in the future. As someone who deals with thinking too far ahead and contemplating the bad outcomes, that was immense advice. Just trust who you are going to become to do what is needed and move forward.
hope that helps!
Nov 7, 2024
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It won't happen over night. You'll need to chose what you value and make incremental changes in line with that value—discarding habits and behaviors that don't fit and replacing them with ones that do. These are small things. And you don't add another until the first is second nature. Do this humbly and quietly. Then one day you'll look up to find you are changed.
Feb 14, 2025
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given that you’ve already started the pivot, it seems like you just need a lil pep talk. here it goes: you are exactly the right age to be taking on new challenges. sure, theres some risk involved. but time is 100% on your side, and the fastest way to self-actualize is to operate outside your comfort zone.
just take this one day at a time and don’t stress about the unknowable future. its a waste of energy you could be dedicating to learning and growing here in the present. it will work out. it usually always does.
Aug 5, 2024
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
— Anaïs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share.
I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay!
Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me đź’Ś
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately âś…đź’…
Feb 27, 2025