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pharmacist is such a funny job. you spend years in school drowning in debt. and your reward? entitled boomers yelling at you. like being a service worker who doesn't get tips. i have a butt load of prescriptions so i am at the pharmacy a lot. when i don't have to wait a long time i am on cloud nine. when i do have to wait a long time i remember that they are busy and i am not the main character. either way i always thank them. sometimes i tell them i appreciate their hard work. especially if i see another customer disrespecting them.
i feel the same way about librarians. they are so passionate about books and learning. but most of their time is spent like the pharmacist dealing with entitled members of the public. i used to go to my local library to get homework done. i sat in the corner with headphones on bc autism/anxiety and didn't talk to anyone. now i don't go as much but whenever i do. if i see one of the library staff and they are not currently talking to anyone. i ask them a simple question that i know they know the answer to. and thank them for their hard work.
my goal is to get to know these people on a first name basis. i don't want to take up too much of their time when they are on the clock. but i want them to know who i am and how much i treasure them. so that when they see me coming in they feel a sense of relief. they know it will be a positive interaction. save your anger for the people who deserve it.
Dec 7, 2024
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I’ve seen so many people be straight up assholes to service workers. They shaking and moving just like you, throw out a quick thank you or have a great day. Who knows how many times a day they have to deal with someone either ignoring them or being jerks. Even if you’re not feeling it hit them with one of these. Goes a long way.
Jan 15, 2025
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realized I should smile and say thank you even if I'm tired from work bc I know they are just as tired and also currently at work
Jan 25, 2024
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it’s a really nice gesture, especially when they’re treated so badly most of the time. and don’t forget to tip when u can!
Feb 24, 2024
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sometimes i don't want to feel hungry but food makes me feel gross. if you can drink your calories instead of eating them you can fill up quicker. and you don't have to think as much about the taste. or even chew.
i usually chuck everything into a blender. sometimes i make kits with all the ingredients before i get hungry. i know some folks would call this a smoothie. but you can think of it however you like. maybe it's a soup. maybe it's a stew. maybe it's a salad. who says you can't have a salad in liquid form?
the best part is you can pick and choose ingredients. try to figure out what your body needs. sugar? try fresh or frozen fruit! fat? use up some of that coconut oil you thought would be a good moisturizer! protein? throw in some nuts or dairy. or maybe you like protein powder. i don't. but it doesn't matter.
there are two hacks if you feel extra spicy depressed and need even more help. the first is to plug your nose. don't taste it! it's only going to be in your mouth for a few seconds. and the second? don't look at it! use a water bottle that you can't see the inside of. or just close your eyes. i used to stress about finding the right color. it would come out looking like mud and i would lose my appetite even more. don't do what i did. it doesn't need blueberries or pomegranate seeds or food coloring. if you don't like the way it tastes don't taste it. if you don't like the way it looks don't look at it.
Dec 4, 2024
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my therapist told me i should read this book. i dismissed it because it was categorized as self-help. i was expecting it to tell me that my material conditions would go away if i changed my attitude. the neoliberal ideology that makes this genre so harmful. but i tried and i found it really really useful!
the thesis of the book is that you don't need to obey your thoughts and feelings or struggle against them. you can accept and acknowledge them without making them control you. this approach helped me reconceptualize what was going on inside my head. i don't think i ever would have figured this out on my own. there's also exercises that you can try. think trial and error. you just need to find one that works for you.
not everything in this book will apply to everyone. depending on your material conditions it might be a waste of time. there are valid reasons to hate your life. in those situations you should try to change your life and not your attitude. but if you are just looking for a new attitude this could be useful.
one concept i found really helpful was listening to the voice in your head like an anxious older relative. they have good intentions and are very concerned about you. but they're not always right or reasonable. and when they are it doesn't mean you have to listen to them. just laugh and say thanks. i know you are trying to be helpful. but i don't need your advice right now. then go and live your life how you want to.
Dec 4, 2024