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I notice it the most when people receive good things from other people. I think it's an offense, not only to yourself, but to the people who care about you as well. They have a nice image of you in their head. By saying you don't deserve it, etc., you undermine your own image and you question their perspective on you. Why wouldn't you trust them? If somebody decided to spend their money on you on a night out with nothing in exchange but company, wouldn't that be nice? The thought that you went out that day and that was enough justification for someone to deem you worthy of a nice meal. You were you and that's all it mattered.
Some may think it's narcissistic to think this way, or some may think I'm attaching the value people have of themselves to other people. I think it's about finding a balance. The value in the every day, hence the people surrounding you. Then again, if their heads went straight to these negative thoughts, they're probably self-deprecating themselves. Why would I trust that? Give yourself the grace you deserve by honoring the people who love you most.

@mariamaria

Oct 22, 2024

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@mattshawsome

some people struggle to take a compliment — probably a billion different reasons someone ends up here, each with their own history I think sometimes the driver of this is insecurity or self-doubt: "I don't think I'm good enough or worthy to receive honor." — or "I do think that I'm good enough, but I'm convinced that other people don't think I am good enough so I can't accept this for fear of being called out as a fraud." A tangled web.

Oct 22, 2024

@sofe

SUCH A BIG AGREE- i have always found this to be such a turn off especially in the context of relationships. When someone says “oh you are out of my league” or ”I don’t think id be enough for you” and it’s like ?? Ok do you want me to believe you or what???

Oct 22, 2024

@princess

sofe !!!!! huge red flag. i feel like when ppl do this they always have an idealized version of u that u can’t live up to in their mind.

Oct 22, 2024

@himbodome

replace it with being able to laugh at yourself while feeling innocent

Oct 22, 2024

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