1. Visiting your local NA bottle shop. In Toronto, for example, they host themed nights, and everyone attending is sober.
2. Building connections through online communities.
3. Attending punk shows.
4. When I began my sobriety journey, I realized many people in my community and network were already sober. I started conversations with them and set up coffee dates and chats.
Oct 6, 2024
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I can definitely relate. Do you do in-person or zoom meetings? It sounds like you have a supportive community. Do you stay after meetings for fellowship? That might be a more direct way to make sober friends and get some numbers. If you meet people your age that way then you can ask people if they’d be up to getting a coffee or attending a concert with you. Most AA people are apt to say yes to those kinds of things. Some sober folks might be willing to go to a bar with you but it depends on their level of comfort in doing that or how much sober time they have. You’re right that you’re not likely to meet sober people at a bar. Ask people for their numbers to connect outside of meetings. You can ask what kind of activities they do to get some ideas. I do that too. It might be out of your comfort zone but it sounds like it might help.
Sep 29, 2024
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I wish I had a better rec than starting your own sober-first gathering. I'm going to be watching the recs that unfold here for ideas.
Your story is familiar. I quit drinking a year and a half ago. My existing community, many of whom drink, is fantastic and really supportive. I have no problem being around drinking or people who are drinking, and I often am. Not part of AA.
Things are good. But I sometimes pine for gatherings with people who have chosen, on purpose, to be alcohol-free
Sep 29, 2024
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a coffee shop, running club, pottery class, karaoke night etc.
Whatever thing ur into. Go to places where you can do that thing regularly.
Eventally and usually pretty organically you will begin to make friends with people. People who you probably have alot in common with because you already have a shared interest. Yay!
I moved to a new state about a year ago knowing no one. I joined an improv class and now I have a whole network of people that I never expected to know. From that network you'll meet other people and so and so on.
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The smell and just the sound itself feels healing!
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You don’t have to like everyone. Sometimes it’s okay just to say I don’t like you. It will let you feel a little lighter.
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