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In my opinion, the key to being a bitch is being respectful.
Now the way you apply this is you need to respect yourself and others. As long as you use common sense and let others know what is bothering/ not working/ inconvenient to you in a way that is not meant to hurt anyone simply communicating clearly and explaining (I understand that this might be controversial -you don't owe anyone explanations but it is a relationship that you care about and would like to keep putting the effort of communicating your reasons seems reasonable to me-
If this does not work, it is time to walk away. No drama or bad blood, keep a cold yet polite (it works especially if you are overly polite) distance.
This approach mitigates the fear of not people please because you are doing NOTHING wrong.
Jul 22, 2024
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🔨if you’re person with anxiety like me or a person who experiences misogyny (also me) then chances are you could always get a little meaner when it comes to asking acceptable behaviour of others. looking back on times when, in the moment, i was worried that i was being too harsh by telling people how they can treat me, retrospectively i have almost never ever in my life felt i did the wrong thing. realizing this has made standing up for myself 10x easier every time i find myself needing to. showing others grace is not incompatible with showing up for yourself, in fact, one necessitates the other!
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🫂What I mean by this is, it is very important to communicate your needs and make your boundaries clear. You did mention you've tried it all, which leads me to believe that your mother is unwilling to listen. Sometimes people, for whatever reason, can't see past their own mental models for the world and are unable to extend empathy (yes, even to their own children). For your own mental health and well-being, as well as that of your daughter's, it might be best to limit contact. Or state clearly that communication will be limited if her behavior continues. You are in no way wrong for how you feel, it is a terrible feeling to be under a constant microscope. People may have good intentions with their advice, but they must understand that there is a distinction between care and micromanaging. One is sweet, while the latter is extremely harmful. It can foster mistrust in relationships, resentment, and can even lead to personal feelings of doubt, lack of self-assurance, and low self-esteem (i speak from exepereince). Constant degredation is extremely harmful for the mind; i am sorry that you are facing this difficult situation, but i hope you choose to do what will make you most happy and will be kinder for your heart.
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🗣I used to be very conflict avoidant as a young pup but as an old dog, I’ve embraced the conflict that arises when you need to let a mf know who you are! Part of being boundaried is enforcing those boundaries if they’ve been crossed and that means sticking up for yourself. You gotta let people know when they ought to do better by you, or politely let them know when they got you fucked up, because only then can you re-establish the terms of engagement so you are respected, treated with the kindness and consideration you deserve. If the person is mature enough to be accountable, then they will respond in a reasonable manner to your reasonable request. If the person crashes out, then they are an unreasonable human who doesn’t deserve to have your time or space! You deserve the world — show yourself that by picking you first!!!
Jul 14, 2025
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🪤my phone broke and I was broke. so I had to go though 2 months of no phone. I have never been so peaceful. I now know the route to get to places (because I had no maps). Got the habit of only replying to texts at 6:30pm and make plans for the next day at that time. I read so many books and was so notinfluenced by social media. Even the things I was eating changed a lot, no more fast meals you can make in less then 5 min, instead I asked my grandma what to cook and guys it’s awesome. BREAK YOUR PHONE
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😃Getting to the checkout and realizing that the price on the shelf was wrong and you actually don't think the real price is worth it, but the cashier is looking at you.
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