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It has been the greatest thing to become a girl dad. Iāve been able to be more available than my dad has ever been able to be ā thatās not a dig at him, heās always been an incredible dad but he worked and worked and worked for us to have a better life. I donāt think he ever learned how to brush my sisterās hair, something I get to do every day. I donāt think he ever bought groceries with one of us during the middle of the day, something thatās a part of my weekly routine. I am realizing that the guilt that comes with being the oldest child of an immigrant, that inner pressure and need to succeed, might not have anything to do with my career but everything to do with my ability to be the dad my father could never be: available and open and involved.
My dad was incredible for the few hours a day I got to see him after he got home from work and that sacrifice allowed me to build a career thatās flexible enough to be a stay-at-home parent. Iāll never be able to thank him enough for that.
I know there are some parents here (happy late Motherās Day / early Fatherās Day) who get this, and some who will get this soon enough. Be the parent you wished your parents could have been. And if you were lucky to have amazing parents like I was, try to be even better than them.
Jun 16, 2024
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I may not have always had the best relationship with my mother but Iām lucky to have had a doting silly goofy stay-at-home working artist dad who would do anything for me. He taught me everything I know, made me go hiking especially when I didnāt want to, and encouraged me in all of my artistic pursuits! Happy Fatherās Day š«¶
Jun 16, 2024
Ahhh yes, creative dad stays at home with wild toddler. Itās the greatest thing. Sheās coloring within the lines now (I don't feed her if she messes up) ((kiddddinggggg)). We go on long walks. We do coffee runs together and sheās even learned how to tap-to-pay and tip 20%. Most days are easy; some days are brutal. But on the brutal days I have literal thousands of photos and videos of her to remind me that this sacrifice of being home while mom works is worth it, and that I can be more physically & emotionally present than my dad could have ever wished to be. Trying to cherish it. (Also if you were wondering, yes I am a behemoth)
Apr 12, 2024
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about to make guacamole with my dad.
we visited his dad today.
instead of learning how to make chip dips, his dad taught him how to throw a ball.
it was weird; hearing my dad tell the lady at the counter, āiām looking for my dadās room.ā
sometimes i forget he was a kid once, too.
my grandfather ended the visit by holding my dadās hand and saying, āyou wouldnāt believe how much i love you!ā
both of them were trying to be strong, but i saw their eyes gloss over.
i made the guac, by the way. my dad was very patient with me & my questions about avocados.
i think its because he misses when his dad could be patient with him.
instead heās a patient at the hospital
who can very well believe how much he loves his son.
i donāt know. just food for thought.
Feb 25, 2025
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florinegrassenhopper riotgrrrl brendanooooo slowdazzle buck_mcgraw and indianjones ā we did it. Not only did we successfully meet for drinks, but we also schemed the hostile takeover of this app from tyler tonight.
In all seriousness ā weird that an app I downloaded in April would make genuinely want to drive back into Brooklyn during end of day traffic for a happy hour. Great app filled with great people.
Jul 20, 2024
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I feel like thereās a special connectivity on this app that I havenāt felt in a long time, maybe since early 2010ās tumblr. The fact that you canāt promote yourself like IG is wonderful. The fact that there isnāt mass video content like Tik Tok is great. Itās not this monetized / paid sponsorship app. People are here because they want to be a part of something with nothing to gain besides friendship. Seeing the URL -> IRL meetups warms my heart so much (waiting for an NYC or Brooklyn meetup).
Thanks for your participation on this niche little app. I smile reading all the recs and all the comments and all the asks. Hope weāll all be here for a long time.
Jun 15, 2024
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I think a life rule for me is to surround myself with people who know more / are smarter / are cooler than me and just absorb their aura by listening / observing them. Itās made me the incredibly smart / cool person you all know and love.
I just never thought Iād feel the same way about URL friends. Iām constantly listening to the songs I see posted here, reading the articles, subbing to newsletters, and googling topics that get tossed onto the feed.
Itās nice to know you can become a more rounded person by just absorbing what your mutuals post on here. Iām going to sit on my couch, have a cocktail and digest my lovely feed. Happy Sunday!
Sep 15, 2024