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Someone from a dating app texted me last night saying "[...]I typically[...]am kind of primarily a lesbian lol, but you seem cool and fun and nice so am looking forward to meeting up and feeling out the ~vibe~."
As a bad queer, as someone who is usually interpreted as a gay man, my little nonbinary lesbian heart aches/flutters
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I cannot and will not be able to tell otherwise. My partner told me “I’m crazy about you” after we’d met (we’d been texting for a few weeks) and I was like OH COOL HE ACTUALLY LIKES ME. I have historically been a dummy for lovebombing cause I only really respond to this, but I wish more normal people had been that direct then maybe I wouldn’t have dated so many horrible people before meeting Billy. (this is also why I’m so pro dating app, because at least you know the person at least fancies you without having the guess).
Jun 10, 2024
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I went to this girl that I’ve been seeing for a few month ‘s show tonight. Shes the drummer and her band was soo good. I’ve listened to them before, but this was the first time I had seen her perform with the band. I’ve watched her play other times at her orchestra concerts and such but damnnnnnnnnn. I was mesmerized by her the whole time. After the show she came up to me before the next band played. Turned out that her parents were there so I had an impromptu meeting with them haha. We hung out the rest of the night until she had to wrap up. She walked me to my car and I drove her back. It’s confusing because we have an emotional connection and sometimes hang out without doing anything but that was the foundation of our relationship. I love sleeping with her, but I can tell we both like eachother to some degree. I’m just worried I like her more than she likes me, and we’re in different phases of our life. I love when we’re sweet together and we sometimes go on dates just to see eachother for a little while. We appear like a couple in public anytime we’re together, so it really messes with my head. I want more than what we have right now, and I can’t tell where we’re heading. Love being a lesbian, but I know my heart is getting wrapped up in this. I just hope this all goes the way it is meant to. 🫠
Mar 19, 2025
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i had a conversation with my current squeeze about vday plans and i was incredibly nervous.
we aren’t “official”, however both of us have not engaged in any other stuff with other people since we met.
even in this situation, and from past experiences i didn't want to impose so much on him, and create an expectation that we needed to celebrate since we aren’t technically a couple. also he has a weird work schedule and fridays is his day to prepare for long shifts during the weekend.
i told him we can do something the day before, but that i would like to celebrate the morning of vday with him before i get to work and he goes back home. luckily he agreed to it.
this is to say, im willing to wait a bit longer. but i am curious how long he will wait. he got out of a long term relationship a month before we met. i want to give him some time. but i am kinda on a clock as well. despite that, i am still having great times with him 💗
also, i feel uncomfortable saying “boyfriend“, so im using other terms like “flame”, “squeeze”, “paramour”, etc. and honestly i like that better than the other stuff 😂
Feb 1, 2025
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I know slavoj zizek is a fucking loser now, but his movie A Pervert's Guide to Ideology was the first piece of media that began to rub away the sheen/shellac of pretense that the world operates smoothly. It was my first time really engaging with a Marxian analysis and sitting with it. I was in high school, and it set me up to care about critical theory. From this movie, I'd read Mark Fisher's really quick book "Capitalist Realism: is there no alternative?" Fisher grounds a lot of his theory in culture/media in a very similar way to Zizek.
After that, I'd follow recommendations made by others in the thread!
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1. Scroll the "everyone" feed (almost completely ignore that home/friends page)
2. Like gratuitously
3. Follow people who post things you like
4. I try to be brave and comment when feeling moved
I don't search or look for anything in particular, personally, unless I'm about to post something and curious if others have done so already. Just let the river float by and enjoy the ride
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