I graduated from uni and couldn't find a career job. So I moved back home to my little town and into my parents' basement, worked at a cemetery, and taught as a substitute teacher. All my good friends were gone, and I was drinking heavily on weekends with the locals. When my girlfriend realized I was on the fast-track to losership, she cheated on me (she was still at uni) and used that to end it.
I did learn how to grow most plants from seed, how to bury someone properly, and how to handle teenagers in a classroom. Then I went to grad school.
Jun 11, 2024
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still in college right now. i grew up with parents i felt were pretty strict so being able to move away was good and bad. with such a new sense of freedom i kind of lost it and partied more than i could handle. my grades took a tumble, but i was the happiest i had ever been. obviously, my parents were not happy with that and i really had lock in on academics. although this new party lifestyle kind of caused a unnecessary amount of stress, i wouldn't change how i handled this at all. through this whirlwind of nights out, i met my closest friends and really discovered myself. my university has a large music scene and most of the parties i went to were also house shows. while i have severely grown out of the crazy partying, i still end up at these functions as a photographer for the artists or clubs throwing the events! i wouldn't have discovered my passion for photography without exploring the music scene the way when i first got here.
Jan 21, 2025
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ive met a few people been to some parties and been involved in drama within the past nine-ish months i’ve been in college and these are my thoughts:
- (when it comes to people my age) everyone is the same as how they were in high school. no one’s really grown or mature, it’s just high school part two with less restrictions.
- alcohol isn’t really that cool anymore, i never liked drinking and im liking it less and less. Who i’m looking for at parties are the queers in the smoke circle….
- people who you think are cool are much more socially awkward and insecure than you think (and probably more than you!)
- you will get more queer due to abundance of exposure as compared to your red state hometown
Overall college is pretty chill and thank god for graduating high school
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i’m in my third year of university and it has been quite a ride. first year i was living in residence and had an amazing roommate who is still my best friend now, but i was not prepared for how hard classes would be so i was a total slacker and got some pretty bad grades.
second year, i don’t remember much. i was living at home and i had a few friends i had class with, and my grades improved a bit since i actually knew how much work it took. but my chem courses were making me want to die. i ended up passing in the end though, thank goodness.
third year, ive lost contact with most of my friends. people don’t talk to me in class anymore, i don’t really go out a lot, but ive finally figured out what i want to do post-grad. i’m working my ass off to keep my grades up, and it‘s really hard. i’m in a difficult program at a well ranked school, and it’s really taking its toll on my mental health. but i’m looking towards the future and working my way past the shit i’m dealing with. i have a few friends that i really love, and a partner that’s supporting me like crazy, so i’m sure it will all turn out okay.
just remember: it will always be more work than you expect. i sailed by in high school and then realized i didn’t know how to study (and still don’t) once i got to uni. but if you work hard, try different techniques, make friends with people you can work with, and forgo fun things sometimes, you’ll make it through
Jan 19, 2025
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Pouring down rain and thunder and lightning passing though. I've missed you most of June, and I'm glad you are back.
Jun 30, 2024
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All the dosas you want. All the chutneys you like.
Mar 14, 2025
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When I was young, I generally avoided eye contact with people, but working in a research library broke me of this habit (you can't help people at an information desk unless you look at them for clues about their needs).
I usually make eye contact now just to find that person in the people sea that is not staring at their phone. I try not to be a creeper though. Just an acknowledgement that we are both taking a break from the screenlords and their algorithms for that moment.
Aug 9, 2024