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my friend is taking brazilian drumming class, and i saw him play in a parade today. it was so cute, so make sure you go to your friend’s rec league soccer game or beginner’s ballet showcase, tell them their pottery is good (even if it isn’t), and buy those earrings they started making from clay in COVID. go to as many of their gigs as you can, especially the one in that far ass neighborhood that most people won’t show up for. there’s something so mutually enriching about celebrating people in all the small moments, not just the big ones. looking back, all the small things were the ones that meant the most.
May 19, 2024
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i’ve met so many people by just going to random events in support of my friends. chat people up, you never know what could happen!
May 15, 2025
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sometimes i think i get so caught up in the stuff i share that i forget it also means a lot to my friends when i take their recommendations. ive been more mindful of watching or listening to the stuff they send in a timely manner and genuinely feel that ive become better friends w people ive known for years. it’s crazy how there’s always more to learn abt the people in ur life and it can be uncovered by doing something as simple as watching a movie or listening to a song
Mar 30, 2025
Think: driving them to the airport during rush hour, moving furniture on a summer day, (in my case, see photo) cutting away at their badly overgrown garden when you are not a gardening gal. Or painting their bedroom on a whim, replacing their windshield fluid, or wrangling their demon cat for a trip to the vet.
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
Apr 6, 2024
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all the baristas know your order and compliment your nails and an 81-year-old man who’s been around the neighborhood way longer than the coffee shop says “fuggedaboutit” unironically, gives you life advice, calls your ex a “schmuck,” and says “be good, kid” when you leave. cannot recommend enough.
Jun 12, 2024
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i’m literally me af for this
May 18, 2024
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“scarcity is scare city, as they say,” or something else they definitely don’t say. new idiom just dropped, who’s to stop you?
May 16, 2024