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Everyone should have a yes era where they say yes to any and all things they want to do/find intriguing/feel drawn to regardless of what the rude little voice in their head might say.
When I was 20, in a new city for the summer and fresh out of an emotionally arduous situationship I had my first “yes” era. I said yes to everything and anything that sounded remotely interesting as long as it didn’t endanger my general health or leave me destitute. In this era I went on my first major camping trip, surfed, took a bus across the entirety of Oahu to party with a group of burning man 30 something’s I had just met, and had one of the most beautiful romantic rendezvous of my life - all because I said yes to things I would usually make excuses against doing or let fear keep me from doing them. And it was quite literally and metaphorically life changing!!
I’ve been thinking about how I need another yes era! Why should fear/anxiety win😤
I’ve been thinking about how I need another yes era! Why should fear/anxiety win😤
Apr 15, 2024
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🤠My mentor used to be a professional astrology reader and according to her, now is the time to start saying yes to new things. Have been testing this and I find it to be true 💟 yes yes yes
Mar 28, 2025
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📣If your reservations are only rooted in abstract anxiety/self-doubt, and not concrete reason why it wouldn’t be good for you, DO IT!!! If someone thinks you’d be good for an opportunity, believe them
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✅don't get me wrong - saying no to things is a great practice for setting boundaries and it’s very empowering .. it’s also good to push yourself past those boundaries sometimes. say yes to things more and see how you feel about it after. maybe you’ll find yourself enjoying it a bit too much 🤭
say yes to the date. say yes to the job. say yes to that party invite. say yassss
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Think: driving them to the airport during rush hour, moving furniture on a summer day, (in my case, see photo) cutting away at their badly overgrown garden when you are not a gardening gal. Or painting their bedroom on a whim, replacing their windshield fluid, or wrangling their demon cat for a trip to the vet.
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
I read a Manrepeller article (RIP) years ago that talked about how helping friends with these tedious, unrewarding tasks is where the real work of friendship begins. You don’t get so see how they get frustrated over brunch, but you do when you’re both unsuccessfully dragging a couch around a staircase corner, and getting To bond and troubleshoot that frustration opens whole new doors for closeness. This wisdom has never led me astray! I almost always leave these kinds of labor-based hangouts feeling closer and more held in friendship!
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❤️My heart goes out to you and your family, this kind of this is never easy and is generally pretty fucking terrible all around. I lost my mom in 2018 after a pretty prolonged and slow to cease battle with cancer.
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛
When she was in end-of-life care something small that helped her feel a bit better was trying to make the space as homey as possible. Lots of pictures, her favorite blanket, and a friend of hers even brought some large stuffed animals that lived on her bed. It was something small that helped in the immediate moment.
I also echo everyone here saying to prepare for the grief but also prepare to sit with it for longer than you think you’ll need. I was only home for about a week after she passed before going back to school across the country, and not having my family/hometown network to grieve with really stunted and prolonged my healing process.
Also a bit bleak, but my mom and I were able to have a sort of ”closing” convo where we said goodbyes, and she told me her wishes for me, etc. if you’re able, it was a really powerful conversation to have and something I hold close when I’m having a particularly hard grief day (which still happen 6 years out! All part of the process)💛