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Before I get started... my friend Charlie's advice is better than mine, do what they say.
1. I think candid photography is fantastic. If you can train yourself to really pretend the camera isn't there, that's great.
2. Barring that, my goal is not to do some stiff rigid power pose (I do gravitate to some poses that tend to work, but I'm not as consistent about it as Charlie is), but to be comfortable and make people think I was born on camera, and that I'm equally natural and charming in person. Of course, I'm an awkward mess in person, so that leads me to...
3. Embracing goofiness. Taking photos of yourself is a little bit dumb, so let it be a little bit dumb. I write about fun poses here, in the context of menswear, but I think it's relevant to people who want to take photos. Eat on camera. Dance on camera. Interview a teddy bear on camera. Live your life well, and capture that, with every unusal beat it carries.
1. I think candid photography is fantastic. If you can train yourself to really pretend the camera isn't there, that's great.
2. Barring that, my goal is not to do some stiff rigid power pose (I do gravitate to some poses that tend to work, but I'm not as consistent about it as Charlie is), but to be comfortable and make people think I was born on camera, and that I'm equally natural and charming in person. Of course, I'm an awkward mess in person, so that leads me to...
3. Embracing goofiness. Taking photos of yourself is a little bit dumb, so let it be a little bit dumb. I write about fun poses here, in the context of menswear, but I think it's relevant to people who want to take photos. Eat on camera. Dance on camera. Interview a teddy bear on camera. Live your life well, and capture that, with every unusal beat it carries.
Feb 26, 2024
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āomg did they get the right angle???? did i smile too hard or not enough???ā no more of this!!!!!!!! more being goofy!!!!! thereās more fun in life when you donāt look perfect!!!!
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šøI realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasnāt realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so itās easy to dwell on imperfections. But thatās not how people experience you. Itās not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. Youād think thereās something wrong with them! Who focuses on a personās looks that much! Get a life you misery!
Thatās how we treat ourselves. Thereās an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. Itās so boring. Your āflawsāāas society has taught you to think about themāare not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness.
One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But thatās what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because sheās unapologetic about them.
Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. Itās how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other peopleā not how you look.
Mar 29, 2025
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š¹Not really a revolutionary sentiment; this is something people talk about a lot. But it leads to people living their lives as if theyāre on a stage in a literal sense where their homes become set dressing for the aspirational lifestyle they want to project with the purpose of creating monetized content thatās palatable to an audience and to advertisers. Tiktok seemed to democratize this landscape quite a bit to where people who didnāt fit the narrower expectations set on Instagram and YouTube were able to carve out niches for themselves, but these niches were still subject to specific visual languages, trends, and ārules.ā And now that itās almost certainly on deathās doorstep, it should be interesting to see how this evolves.
If you want to share your authentic life you should do it authenticallyāitās scary to bravely offer yourself up in such an unfiltered way but itās where you currently are and itās part of your story. You may not be happy with the way your house looks now but viewers might enjoy seeing your journey of becoming and the way the space you live in evolves with that! Sometimes you donāt have to feel ready or confident enough to do something; the confidence can come with practice and familiarity. The hardest part is showing up! š
If you want to share your authentic life you should do it authenticallyāitās scary to bravely offer yourself up in such an unfiltered way but itās where you currently are and itās part of your story. You may not be happy with the way your house looks now but viewers might enjoy seeing your journey of becoming and the way the space you live in evolves with that! Sometimes you donāt have to feel ready or confident enough to do something; the confidence can come with practice and familiarity. The hardest part is showing up! š
Jan 14, 2025
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š„°I feel like this place isn't about people but about recommendations, right? forget the influencer, forget the individual, just browse and talk about cool shit and whoever says something good, that's good. that's what I liked about reddit, back when I actually liked reddit.
I haven't found many people I want to follow, and I'm not really looking.
I haven't found many people I want to follow, and I'm not really looking.
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šfor a while, when I wanted something expensive, I would think to myself, "oh, let me just look for a cheaper version of it." I end up settling for something that isn't good in any of the ways that made me want the expensive version.
Throw that out. You can get fantastic pieces for cheap, you can thrift a wardrobe you love, but if you're trying to find a cheap copy of something expensive, it's not going to work.
Throw that out. You can get fantastic pieces for cheap, you can thrift a wardrobe you love, but if you're trying to find a cheap copy of something expensive, it's not going to work.
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I pulled together all the good advice I could on how to get a men's summer wardrobe together cheap. I hope it helps somebody.
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