Before I get started... my friend Charlie's advice is better than mine, do what they say.
1. I think candid photography is fantastic. If you can train yourself to really pretend the camera isn't there, that's great.
2. Barring that, my goal is not to do some stiff rigid power pose (I do gravitate to some poses that tend to work, but I'm not as consistent about it as Charlie is), but to be comfortable and make people think I was born on camera, and that I'm equally natural and charming in person. Of course, I'm an awkward mess in person, so that leads me to...
3. Embracing goofiness. Taking photos of yourself is a little bit dumb, so let it be a little bit dumb. I write about fun poses here, in the context of menswear, but I think it's relevant to people who want to take photos. Eat on camera. Dance on camera. Interview a teddy bear on camera. Live your life well, and capture that, with every unusal beat it carries.
Feb 26, 2024
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I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasnât realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so itâs easy to dwell on imperfections. But thatâs not how people experience you. Itâs not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. Youâd think thereâs something wrong with them! Who focuses on a personâs looks that much! Get a life you misery!
Thatâs how we treat ourselves. Thereâs an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. Itâs so boring. Your âflawsââas society has taught you to think about themâare not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness.
One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But thatâs what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because sheâs unapologetic about them.
Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. Itâs how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other peopleâ not how you look.
Mar 29, 2025
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Not really a revolutionary sentiment; this is something people talk about a lot. But it leads to people living their lives as if theyâre on a stage in a literal sense where their homes become set dressing for the aspirational lifestyle they want to project with the purpose of creating monetized content thatâs palatable to an audience and to advertisers. Tiktok seemed to democratize this landscape quite a bit to where people who didnât fit the narrower expectations set on Instagram and YouTube were able to carve out niches for themselves, but these niches were still subject to specific visual languages, trends, and ârules.â And now that itâs almost certainly on deathâs doorstep, it should be interesting to see how this evolves.
If you want to share your authentic life you should do it authenticallyâitâs scary to bravely offer yourself up in such an unfiltered way but itâs where you currently are and itâs part of your story. You may not be happy with the way your house looks now but viewers might enjoy seeing your journey of becoming and the way the space you live in evolves with that! Sometimes you donât have to feel ready or confident enough to do something; the confidence can come with practice and familiarity. The hardest part is showing up! đ
Jan 14, 2025
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I totally get where youâre coming from. It sounds like youâre in the perfect position to create something really meaningful! The vulnerability you feel about sharing your life is something many people can relate to, and your experience as a European in the US is unique. Remember, imperfection can actually make your content feel more authentic and real. You donât need the âperfectâ setup or life to startâjust film what you can with what you have. A small moment, like grocery shopping in the US or trying something new, can be super interesting to people. Plus, your story is your strength. The struggles, the cultural differences, even your doubtsâthose are the things that will resonate with others. Focus more on editing and storytelling, and the vibe you give off will make a bigger impact than any perfect shot. Think of it as a way to connect with others, not to be judged. The right audience will appreciate your honesty, and the rest wonât matter. Just take it one step at a time and enjoy the process! :) good luck! Iâll subscribe
Jan 14, 2025
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I feel like this place isn't about people but about recommendations, right? forget the influencer, forget the individual, just browse and talk about cool shit and whoever says something good, that's good. that's what I liked about reddit, back when I actually liked reddit.
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I've been enjoying new clothes, and experimenting them with fun ways, so much lately that I need to keep reminding myself of this. Not every excursion outside needs to be fresh and new and experimental. If I am going out and I need a warm sweater and I need my sneakers and I already have a fit in mind with those pieces, I can just wear it, I don't need to reinvent the wheel every time.
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