Rec
⭐
not downloading a dating app just because your single
after my breakup over a year ago i decided not to download any dating apps, and i still haven't, and i think that's been the best decision for me. this website is the closest thing to a "dating app" that i'm on currently. i've gone on dates here and there, but all people i've met out in the wild. just feels like so much less pressure and stress when dating/finding a relationship isn't the center of my universe!!
image
@catgirl505
Feb 24, 2024
11
see likes

Comments

Make an account to reply.
image
@0xc0ffee
Definitely feel dating not being the center of your life. Being your own best friend/partner helps in perspective, for me, because then I find I can prioritize myself and make connections with others as I see fit, and as I have the time and bandwidth. It makes dating not feel like an obligation or a treadmill, but something I can selectively dip into. This makes the dating apps manageable for me.
Mar 7, 2024
1
image
@catgirl505
0xc0ffee For sure!! Honestly I love taking myself out on dates and giving myself the same care I would a partner. It's helped me think more about what I actually want rather than only thinking about what other people want out of me
Mar 8, 2024
1

Related Recs

Rec
😃
leave the dating apps behind
Like someone else said, one of the best, most freeing things is to leave the dating apps behind especially if you struggle with self esteem. I know people who have found amazing relationships from dating apps, but as a whole I believe they have done a great job at commoditizing romance and making interactions transactional; they want you to pay more money to keep swiping until your thumbs hurt. Combine that with the fact that all the major dating apps are owned by either Match Group or Bumble, data privacy concerns, and you now have an industry that treats dating like a mobile gacha game. Dating felt fun and natural for me the minute I left the apps behind. This is just my 2 cents, so take it with a grain of salt. Maybe they work for you, if so, more power to you!
image
@wakeuplmd
Jan 21, 2025
13
Rec
recommendation image
💔
Anti rec: downloading a dating app on valentines
I know you feel incredibly single today, same. but don’t even thiiiink about downloading that fuckass app. It’s not worth it, I PROMISE you are doing fine on your own. But, if you do decide to download a wretched dating app anyways, please keep in mind that the one holding a dead fish in their dating profile is probably not going to love you with tenderness and understanding for a lifetime. Don’t settle.
image
@starlet
Feb 14, 2025
11
Rec
🌹
not using dating apps
I never want to meet anyone ever again
image
@phant0m_dust
Feb 2, 2024
15

Top Recs from @catgirl505

Rec
⭐
age gap friendships
having older friends who can share their wisdom and life experiences and older-person quirks is so fun and wholesome
image
@catgirl505
May 20, 2024
53
Rec
⭐
Journaling in public
genuinely believe journaling has saved my mental health but doing it in public alone is such a better alternative to going on your phone and also if you have a pretty notebook it's a great conversation starter
image
@catgirl505
Jun 18, 2024
31
Rec
😃
letting yourself make “bad” art
if you expect everything you make to be a masterpiece you’ll never get started on anything….let yourself make “bad” stuff in order to get to the “good” stuff
image
@catgirl505
Jun 6, 2024
30