I think having confidence is harvested over years spent doing important things that scare you, and surviving
I think feeling confident is when that ⬆️ overlaps with short-term wins, like being helpful to someone or caught up on your laundry lol. Or even happy accidents, like a lull in the storm of family drama or having a good hair day.
All such a practice and a dance though, I struggle too sometimes of course, but this is my understanding of it atm
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I recently started dance and painting classes, which I’m horrible at. It has made me embrace failure and become friends with it-but in a low-stakes kind of way.
Nov 20, 2024
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Not on some hustle self improvement shit, but trying on an attitude of more engagement with the world instead of fear and avoidance. Recently being saying yes to things that I used to put off like playing pickup basketball (ball is life), lifting (lol hell yeah bro), socializing with people outside my usual and things I was too nervous about like public speaking and taking up space. And surprise surprise, getting over it and doing those challenging things is never as bad as I thought it was going to be. My brain is firing in ways that make me feel less melancholy and more alive. My dreams are more vivid, I feel more present and self determined and life feels a little richer. Just do it ✔️
Jun 16, 2024
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I grew up being painfully shy with anyone other than my closest friends. I got sick of that. Over the years I’ve grown into a confident person by doing as much scary shit as I can. If there’s something I find particularly terrifying, like accepting an invitation to attend a clowning class, it means to me I have to just fucking do it. I don’t always end up having good experiences following my fear, but more often than not, I do. And you know, worst case scenario I end up with a funny story? Eating shit is good for you. If there’s something that keeps floating into your consciousness, but you’re afraid to poke it, I recommend walking towards it!
Apr 5, 2023
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Stay humble
Feb 7, 2024
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-Don’t get wifi on planes
-Look up from phone on bridges/around bodies of water
-Headphones actively taken out when there are buskers, street performers, preachers
-Phone fully powered off during movies
-Phone stays in pocket at concert
-Exchange phone number with a crush instead of Instagram
-No more than 2 cameras on a person blowing their bday candles out
-If you have find my friends only use it for emergencies
No problem with cyborg behavior tho if you’re owning it
Dec 8, 2024
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In college I crushed on a guy with a mullet then realized I could just get my own mullet. Thought this dude in a bolo tie recently was so hot then I just started wearing a bolo tie. Surface level crushes are the perfect inspo source
Mar 12, 2024