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if you’ve ever had a manic episode and a long term partner simultaneously, this might make you laugh a bit.
I don’t know how I truly feel about the main character. Maybe bc she’s speaking to my feral tendencies that I dislike Her But I’m also like super into the insanity Of it all.
I can’t tell if this is supposed to be about wife liberation (new punk band name) or a trad wife starter kit (also new band name but for my post punk band).
She’s gives very much “would you still love me if I were a cloud?”
I can relate. The answer should always be yes bc why wouldn’t you fall in love with the clouds in the sky??
Are we not real yearners?
Let’s see how the rest of the book shapes up.
I don’t know how I truly feel about the main character. Maybe bc she’s speaking to my feral tendencies that I dislike Her But I’m also like super into the insanity Of it all.
I can’t tell if this is supposed to be about wife liberation (new punk band name) or a trad wife starter kit (also new band name but for my post punk band).
She’s gives very much “would you still love me if I were a cloud?”
I can relate. The answer should always be yes bc why wouldn’t you fall in love with the clouds in the sky??
Are we not real yearners?
Let’s see how the rest of the book shapes up.
Feb 1, 2024
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As a recovering obsessive, narcissistic hater, this really resonated with me
Mar 4, 2024
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I remember reading this a few years ago while going through some kind of personality crisis, and it helped me and reassured me greatly for some reason.
Don’t think it would affect me this much if I read it today but I highly recommend browsing through Rayne’s substack :)) 💌
Jun 2, 2025
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📚I don’t personally know Alissa Bennett, but I think she is a brilliant and funny person who has clearly lived a vibrant life. A friend of mine once said about himself, “I’m not a journalist; I just live this shit.” I think this mantra (with the tweak, “I’m just really interested in this shit”) applies to Bennett’s writing and various projects — from her burner IG @regret_counter and podcast, to the next-level zines she publishes. Those zines though, wow! The writing is so intimate, confident, and, well, perfectly imperfect (sorry, sorry…).I like that every other paragraph has a typo, that she will frequently and flagrantly use cap-locks, and that she essentially unpacks the indiscretions of fringe tabloid figures in order to exhume her own demons and make sense of her past and present. It’s got a very “warts and all” vibe, and I respect that she’s willing to air her own dirty laundry in service of establishing a spiritual connection to the subjects of her texts. That’s not to say she goes easy on them, but it all feels empathetic instead of exploitative or solipsistic. Rarely do I audibly laugh while reading, but Bennett’s work consistently makes me LOL. Generally, I prefer when people write the way they talk. Her essays feel like the coolest girl at the bar is whispering (and occasionally shouting) a very good story directly in your ear, but she also doesn’t really care whether you like the story or not. She already knows it’s good.Start with “Bad Behavior,” which is a series of essays/love letters to various semi-public figures who engaged in specific, scandalous acts. Then hit “Pretend You’re Actually Alive.” Most of the zines are sold out, but I’m sure she’d send you a PDF if you ask nicely. There’s also a new one on the way.
Sep 8, 2022
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🥪Carmelize the damn onions in butter and beef broth.
Low heat, 45 fuckin minutes. I’m not playin w you.
Use gruyere cheese
Make a compound butter with my girlies: thyme and rosemary and their dude garlic.
Slather that butter on two pieces of sourdough. Both sides, I shouldn’t even have to tell you this.
Cook up some bacon!!!
Add a tomato.
If you’re feeling froggy…truffle powder.
Get to work.
Low heat, 45 fuckin minutes. I’m not playin w you.
Use gruyere cheese
Make a compound butter with my girlies: thyme and rosemary and their dude garlic.
Slather that butter on two pieces of sourdough. Both sides, I shouldn’t even have to tell you this.
Cook up some bacon!!!
Add a tomato.
If you’re feeling froggy…truffle powder.
Get to work.
Jan 25, 2024
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It’s black history month. Support your black friends and learn the origin of like every American popular musical genre everrr.
Once I’m done with the 40 + genres, we’re diving into the diasporaaaa.
And then at some point I’m talking cash shit about the summer of love and what was cooler than stinky trust fund kids…I mean hippies in San Francisco... I’ll give you some hints, same time period but across the bridge in Oakland. There’s also 1980s Washington DC, fuck it even 1960s Detroit. I just really fucking hate the Grateful Dead fans. Sorry. Not sorry.
Perfect listening for cleaning the house and doing art projects.
Tell a friend.
Once I’m done with the 40 + genres, we’re diving into the diasporaaaa.
And then at some point I’m talking cash shit about the summer of love and what was cooler than stinky trust fund kids…I mean hippies in San Francisco... I’ll give you some hints, same time period but across the bridge in Oakland. There’s also 1980s Washington DC, fuck it even 1960s Detroit. I just really fucking hate the Grateful Dead fans. Sorry. Not sorry.
Perfect listening for cleaning the house and doing art projects.
Tell a friend.
Feb 2, 2024
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🪴You SHOULD be rinsing your rice before you cook it.
But if you aren’t today is the PERFECT day to start.
Rinse your rice in cold water to get the starch off it, agitate the rice. save that milky colored water in a large container. Keep rinsing the rice until it’s clear.
Cook your rice and eat it.
Let the rice water sit overnight so that the hard minerals evaporate.
You can dilute the rice water with more reg water to dilute it (like if you have HELLA plants like I do) but stir it up bc it might settle.
(You can either add filtered water OR you can add more water before you let the hard minerals evaporate)
Now you have a natural and free fertilizer for your plants. Use it all in one day tho.
Repeat once a month, every other month or when your plant babies need some extra love especially during the winter months.
But if you aren’t today is the PERFECT day to start.
Rinse your rice in cold water to get the starch off it, agitate the rice. save that milky colored water in a large container. Keep rinsing the rice until it’s clear.
Cook your rice and eat it.
Let the rice water sit overnight so that the hard minerals evaporate.
You can dilute the rice water with more reg water to dilute it (like if you have HELLA plants like I do) but stir it up bc it might settle.
(You can either add filtered water OR you can add more water before you let the hard minerals evaporate)
Now you have a natural and free fertilizer for your plants. Use it all in one day tho.
Repeat once a month, every other month or when your plant babies need some extra love especially during the winter months.
Jan 25, 2024