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My New Year’s resolution was going to be ‘stop being so critical’ however I have a degree in critical thought and I’ve come to realise that being judgemental is what makes me good at philosophy. perhaps my loud distaste for many things (and people) is a small vice to spring from my greatest of virtues.
Jan 31, 2024
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📰i judge people, everyone judges people, the second you walk into a room with other people in it, you get judged. whether it be good or bad judgement, you're always going to be judged by other people, it's just knowing when and what to say. if someone walks in with a haircut that i personally don't like on them, but they really like it, i'm not going to burst their bubble and say that i don't like it, because that's just mean. if something someone is doing is genuinely a bad thing to do, then i will let them know but in a nice way. i'll approach the topic in as civil a manner as i can and if they continue to do this bad thing then i might start getting a little angry or mean with them. but if someone's done or doing something that doesn't affect me or the people around them and they're happy with what they're doing, i'm not going to say that i don't like it, even if its the truth, because their happy and i don't want to ruin that.
as someone who has grown up constantly being told by my own mother everything bad she thinks about me as soon as i tell her something or walk into a room, i know i don't appreciate when people put bad judgement onto me for something that's not affecting them. so i always try my best to do the same for others, and of course occasionally i will say something that's a little out of order, everyone does at some stage. you just need to accept your mistakes, grow from them and move on.
it's really not that difficult to be kind!!
as someone who has grown up constantly being told by my own mother everything bad she thinks about me as soon as i tell her something or walk into a room, i know i don't appreciate when people put bad judgement onto me for something that's not affecting them. so i always try my best to do the same for others, and of course occasionally i will say something that's a little out of order, everyone does at some stage. you just need to accept your mistakes, grow from them and move on.
it's really not that difficult to be kind!!
Jun 3, 2025
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🫶This is probably less of a choice and more of a personality defect. It’s ultimately an alienating and soul crushing way to live your life. But there is no way to be successful without being highly critical, at least as an editor. The danger is when you turn it on yourself and people you are close to (inevitable). In a culture where we’re sold blind positivity (profit motive), it's important to stay critical, to stay on your toes. As an editor this is most important. But it’s also important to be an “A-type” thinker instead of a “B-type” thinker: you have to offer ways to improve what it is you’re criticizing, and not just be critical for the sake of criticizing.
May 10, 2023
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🤔This is such a classic human instinct and it’s something we all have done at one point… I’ve been thinking about how I judge my dad (a working artist) and a friend of his (he was in a highly influential postpunk band that ended up breaking up and splintering into two bands, and he ended up staying in our hometown) for their aversion to “selling out”/their refusal to commodify and aggressively market themselves as artists. I kind of saw it as cope for their lack of commercial success… yet I’m realizing that I do the same thing and I have the same obnoxious beliefs, which I likely internalized from them, and it’s not even necessarily a bad thing it just means that I am decidedly not getting that bag which FEELS BAD in this capitalistic society and awful economy… curious… what are some things you judge other people for that you yourself do or believe?
Jul 4, 2025
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⭐if I go somewhere (train station, highway, supermarket) and there are massive screens which play ads on a loop, purposefully bright and loud and situated in a public space I experience this as an evil. It actively harms me. i don’t think we need to go any further than Times Square to find proof that aesthetic value is at least partially grounded in moral value.
Jan 31, 2024
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⭐You are obligated to make a good faith attempt to like your friends boyfriend five separate times. However five times is quite generous of you and if your don’t like them on the sixth occassion it is out of your hands.
Jan 28, 2024
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🌱 Pilates + not eating processed foods + minimum 8 hours sleep + no coffee past 12pm… who knew feeling like an anxious, sleepless, over caffeinated mess all the time didn’t have to be the case!
May 23, 2024