Rec | BEING MEAN.

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Rec'd on 📰 WHAT’S PROPAGANDA YOU WON’T FALL FOR?

i judge people, everyone judges people, the second you walk into a room with other people in it, you get judged. whether it be good or bad judgement, you're always going to be judged by other people, it's just knowing when and what to say. if someone walks in with a haircut that i personally don't like on them, but they really like it, i'm not going to burst their bubble and say that i don't like it, because that's just mean. if something someone is doing is genuinely a bad thing to do, then i will let them know but in a nice way. i'll approach the topic in as civil a manner as i can and if they continue to do this bad thing then i might start getting a little angry or mean with them. but if someone's done or doing something that doesn't affect me or the people around them and they're happy with what they're doing, i'm not going to say that i don't like it, even if its the truth, because their happy and i don't want to ruin that. as someone who has grown up constantly being told by my own mother everything bad she thinks about me as soon as i tell her something or walk into a room, i know i don't appreciate when people put bad judgement onto me for something that's not affecting them. so i always try my best to do the same for others, and of course occasionally i will say something that's a little out of order, everyone does at some stage. you just need to accept your mistakes, grow from them and move on. it's really not that difficult to be kind!!

@olixverse

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