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I used to see myself as someone with very few friends and even made a little fetish out of the idea of being “a lonely guy.” That may or may not have ever even been true. It’s likely I always had friends but romanticized the idea of not having them. Now, I see myself as someone with friends and while it can be overwhelming in moments, it’s preferable to loneliness or romanticizing loneliness. Having friends/community is also healthier I am told than being alone. So, make friends, enjoy them, cherish them.
May 31, 2022
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🫀i was the first grandchild/cousin, oldest sibling, weird kid etc etc so i know how to make the most of time by myself. and i do value my alone time! but i am very sick of people telling me that i need to learn to enjoy time by myself when i express frustration in not having many friends close by and/or interested in the same things as me.
most of my friends are long distance or simply enjoy different things than me. and thats fine! but it’s also fine for me to want to go to a concert with someone or go to a museum and have someone to talk about the art with. also it’s ok for me to want a romantic smooch or a held hand every once in a while. it does not mean i don’t love myself it just means i am human!
most of my friends are long distance or simply enjoy different things than me. and thats fine! but it’s also fine for me to want to go to a concert with someone or go to a museum and have someone to talk about the art with. also it’s ok for me to want a romantic smooch or a held hand every once in a while. it does not mean i don’t love myself it just means i am human!
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❓i don’t know you so take this with a grain of salt if it doesn’t apply to you. i’ve also never had a long-term romantic relationship so maybe i’m not the best person to listen to anyway. BUT i do have a beautiful community of long-lasting friendships which i believe has given me the skills to be successful in a future romantic partnership
i guess my point is it might be helpful to focus on developing friendships and community first. who knows, a date might come out of it too! but i’ve gone on dates with people who don’t have many friends before and it’s turned out to be a red flag cuz they haven't had experience with relationships in general
also, i've noticed the times i've most wanted to be in a relationship are times when i haven’t connected with my friends in awhile. desire for romance can be a signal for general human connection sometimes. so having a good community might fulfill some of the needs you’re feeling too. but i know it’s a different thing than being head over heels for someone… all depends on what we’re looking for i guess
all the advice on this thread is great for both dating and making friends though! i hope you find lots of meaningful connections of all kinds in the process ✨
also, i've noticed the times i've most wanted to be in a relationship are times when i haven’t connected with my friends in awhile. desire for romance can be a signal for general human connection sometimes. so having a good community might fulfill some of the needs you’re feeling too. but i know it’s a different thing than being head over heels for someone… all depends on what we’re looking for i guess
all the advice on this thread is great for both dating and making friends though! i hope you find lots of meaningful connections of all kinds in the process ✨
Mar 16, 2024
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💎Friends, family, and community. We get trapped in this idea that only a romantic partner can truly know you and free us from loneliness. That’s a lie. We must practice contentment in solitude and celebrate our familial and platonic relationships. These are not cheap substitutes for romance. They are vital.
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