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I’ve been used to suppressing myself my whole life that i find it difficult to know how im actually feeling or what im actually thinking sometimes. It made it harder to love myself or do things that are good for me. But i always knew how to show love and care to others around me. i realized (quite recently) that i can show the same love and care if i treat myself like another person. I’ll just be sitting down listening to her(me) for a long time, no judgement. It’s a seemingly simple act, but something i havent made the space for until now
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A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I don’t remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me.
I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that don’t feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, I’ve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share.
Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too.
It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you don’t need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and that’s really cool <3
Mar 11, 2024
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Has anyone else ever experienced realizing what u actually need to feel loved and cared for by realizing the people in ur life aren't giving that to u? I've been dealing with that a lot recently and it's so crazy to process in the moment tbh
Apr 22, 2024
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So much of us can get lost in the relationship with others that we can give up parts of ourselves. Do those things again that you once did before you met 'what's-their-name'?
Look in a mirror and speak to your flection as a friend. Giving yourself the advice and support as a friend to yourself.
The longest relationship that you will ever have is with with yourself. Show up. Tell yourself the truth. Be authentic. Be yourself. Love and support yourself.
Feb 10, 2024
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I am a pretty obsessive documenter. I seem to have bad memory, which got me into keeping record of things as much as i can. I’ll be taking photos on my iphone, videos on my camcorder (for onion vlogs i make every month), and i keep FOUR diaries with all different purposes. 1: sorta like a gratitude journal. Simple bullet points of things i “liked, lacked, learned, longed for” and thank yous. 2: a “throw up” notebook where i throw up all my thoughts. 3: a simple scheduler thats a weekly format hobonichi. 4: an hourly day-to-day diary that i fill up retroactively to learn any patterns and habits. Kinda like self-research.
Apr 7, 2023
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I’ve been cooking more and trying to order delivery less if poss.. But when i do order food its HERE. i would eat kimbap from Kimbap labs 7 days out of the week if i could. My go-to order is the “Spicy Pork Kimbap Roll” - it’s a roll with a generous amount of Jaeyookbokkeum style pork in it. My choice of side is kimchi(which the kimchi here slaps) and for sauce i highly recommend the seaweed purée.
Apr 7, 2023
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In my downtime i like to have vlogs playing. Sometimes vlog on my iphone, anime on my ipad at the same time. Some of my recent favs have all been small business owners, mostly younger femmes. Here are some of my recs: Radia Rahman, Uncomfy Co, Megan Wang
Apr 7, 2023