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but also to answer ur question with more than just somebody else's advice- spend some time thinking abt your life and who you want to be, what you want out of life, the difference between ur dreams and ur present reality and implement changes! it doesn't have to be big. it can be as simple as volunteering somewhere or taking a different commute somewhere. if u have the means, find new friends or move out or cut your hair or change jobs/major! give urself space to actually grow and go do something new, somewhere new! u dont need permission to leave, just do. ask for forgiveness later if needed. listening to the echoes won't help anything if ur in a echochamber babes. go outside of ur comfort zone!!! live some new experiences and do some new things!!!
hopefully one of these things rings true. good luck <3Β
Jul 14, 2025
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πͺTo be upfront, there are two things about myself that I love:
1. I'm tenacious AF
2. I am generally a positive person. I can handle almost any situtation, and I've had to learn to actually ask/demand more, so it's not always great.
With that being said, I've wanted to die many times. I've experienced a lot of trauma. I have PTSD for years. Things got to a point where I knew if I didn't make really drastic changes I was going to die in some way- I simply could not go on how I was.
The only thing that started to change things is when I started to learn more about myself and my reasons for doing things, being with certain people, getting into certain relationships. Part of my whole issue was that I had major trauma from childhood that I was actively avoiding. So many things happen to us as children, big and small, that we don't have the capacticy to deal with at the time. But as adults, we do.
I remember the moment where things started shifting for me. It unlocked a hunger in me to dig more and more to why I was the way I was, and why I made the choices I did, in a really deep way. I became more action oriented in facing my shit, healing it, and discovering what I was like without it. It definitely wasn't easy, and it wasn't fun most of the time, but in reality the years I spent doing that are small compared to the life I have ahead of me. I'm a whole new person, but the parts of me that are true are the same. I became a more mature, loving, responsible version of myself.
Hating your life is a sign something is not working. If you're unsure what that is, go inward. If you don't know where to start, think about the very next step. That's all you need to do. You're never locked in where you're at now forever. Don't know what you want to do for a career? Switch gears and do a completely different job. There is no timeline. You can literally do whatever you want. When I was doing a lot of the stressful inner work, I worked at animal shelters because I needed something so low stress. And I was mid 20's!!! No career goals in sight!!! Not even anywhere in my brain!!! If you're straight up hating something that is taking up most of your time... just quit it. Life is too short.
Success to me is ease and grace. I want a peaceful, joyful life (most of the time). Sometimes to figure out what you need to do, you gotta take a giant step back. Or a step to the left. Or take a big roundabout. Or maybe a quest needs to be taken...
With that being said, I've wanted to die many times. I've experienced a lot of trauma. I have PTSD for years. Things got to a point where I knew if I didn't make really drastic changes I was going to die in some way- I simply could not go on how I was.
The only thing that started to change things is when I started to learn more about myself and my reasons for doing things, being with certain people, getting into certain relationships. Part of my whole issue was that I had major trauma from childhood that I was actively avoiding. So many things happen to us as children, big and small, that we don't have the capacticy to deal with at the time. But as adults, we do.
I remember the moment where things started shifting for me. It unlocked a hunger in me to dig more and more to why I was the way I was, and why I made the choices I did, in a really deep way. I became more action oriented in facing my shit, healing it, and discovering what I was like without it. It definitely wasn't easy, and it wasn't fun most of the time, but in reality the years I spent doing that are small compared to the life I have ahead of me. I'm a whole new person, but the parts of me that are true are the same. I became a more mature, loving, responsible version of myself.
Hating your life is a sign something is not working. If you're unsure what that is, go inward. If you don't know where to start, think about the very next step. That's all you need to do. You're never locked in where you're at now forever. Don't know what you want to do for a career? Switch gears and do a completely different job. There is no timeline. You can literally do whatever you want. When I was doing a lot of the stressful inner work, I worked at animal shelters because I needed something so low stress. And I was mid 20's!!! No career goals in sight!!! Not even anywhere in my brain!!! If you're straight up hating something that is taking up most of your time... just quit it. Life is too short.
Success to me is ease and grace. I want a peaceful, joyful life (most of the time). Sometimes to figure out what you need to do, you gotta take a giant step back. Or a step to the left. Or take a big roundabout. Or maybe a quest needs to be taken...
Dec 4, 2024
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πͺim not very good at this. i tend to blame my circumstances for my behavior and my mood but genuinely that can only go so far. at some point you have to go out of your way to make your life what you want it to be.
donβt like your hair? cut it. cant seem to do well in classes? talk to professors. feeling unproductive or stuck? go sit in the sun or something. we canβt fix some things, i cant work less or have a different relationship with people in my life but i can do these small things to take ownership of my own life.
currently for me this looks like reading virginia woolf, doing yoga at 1 in the morning, washing my work apron once a week, and spending a lot of time with my uncle.
donβt like your hair? cut it. cant seem to do well in classes? talk to professors. feeling unproductive or stuck? go sit in the sun or something. we canβt fix some things, i cant work less or have a different relationship with people in my life but i can do these small things to take ownership of my own life.
currently for me this looks like reading virginia woolf, doing yoga at 1 in the morning, washing my work apron once a week, and spending a lot of time with my uncle.
Feb 22, 2024
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πI notice everyone is telling you to be more solitary. Which can be helpful but if you're like me too much solitude can make you feel like an alienated meatsuit husk of a person. I really think we build self-knowledge through our reflection in others (#symbolicinteractionism), and through the things we fight to achieve. I'm not sure what this would mean in daily practice but I know I have felt the most at peace with myself when I have been in sink or swim situations and nurturing relationships with a wider range of people. Therefore I am really excited to move to a new city and begin the process again. Maybe jump off the metaphorical deep end? Join a new organization? Stay busy? Work towards a physical goal of some kind?
May 11, 2025
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πI love doing things on a whim!! like shoutout to me and this one other random person who is out here watching "sinners" on a random ass tuesday at 10:30pm in what im pretty sure must be it's last day in theatres πππ
Jul 2, 2025
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geniuenly it is so good. they have a random article generator, guess what happened today in history game on the app, and a feature which let's you make lists for all the articles you find :))
good way to learn, get off social media, and cure boredom!
Jun 12, 2025
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i made a tumblr web weaving type post abt this ages ago, but I was re-reminded of this topic when i saw this rec by @CHICKENONASTICK abt how we are the universe experiencing itself. since you cannot re-rec a post with an image i wanted to bring attention to this brennan lee mulligan quote that i feel is applicable:
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