and don’t try to get them to change their mind. just have a conversation. you don’t even have to talk about the thing. you may learn something, but i bet that you’ll feel more connected in a broader sense after you do.
Also remembering you don't need to have a strong opinion or pick sides on everything immediately (or even at all). I'm trying to be more humble with my judgement
been trying to internalize the idea that disagreeing with friends about something deepens your understanding and expands your empathy for different views and experiences outside of your own. Having the trust that you can debate something without it ending the friendship will lead to more interesting conversations and a more substantive relationship. And having these conversations in person so you can see all the nuance and care for each other. It takes work, but I think it's worth it.
i deleted instagram like three years ago. intermittently on tiktok (like two-day binges every six months). no twitter and nothing else. i love this little app because it succeeds where all the others fail now: in building community. that’s everything IMO. i feel so free everyday and can’t imagine having mainstream social media anymore, between the ads, the people i don’t care about, the pressure, and the whole ickiness of it.
it is all too easy to get swept up in all-or-nothing thinking. my house is messy so I either need to clean the entire thing or continue living in squalor. I have a shitload of work to do so I’ll either avoid it all or I have to block out 7 hours to get everything done. IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!
Enter: just doing a little bit. I don’t have to do all the dishes, just a couple.
as a perfectionist, this is still a novel concept to me even after many years. i still relish the fact that I can be like “oh just do a little bit!” Like how cool.
starting when I was like 7 years old, I used to have morning coffee in bed with my grandparents when I stayed over there. this was my cup.
I now also have a tattoo of this on my hip in honor of them x
