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I am not at all patriotic and I don’t give a fuck about independence day, but it’s always a day of celebration for me. 16 years ago on the 4th of July I was 16 and suicidal. I had been since middle school and almost went through with it at 13, and before that in elementary, I thought about “running away from home so my family would be happy”. That night I went to the top of a parking garage downtown to get a better view of the fireworks. I am going to skip over some painful details here. I ended up partially climbing over the barrier that went around the garage. One leg swinging over the edge.  Then I threw up and it was like the suicidal thoughts came out of me with my dinner. Honestly it felt like a miracle. I cried and went home and while I was still miserable, I never thought about killing myself again. 16 years later, after fighting and clawing and crying myself out of the darkness, my life is better than I ever thought possible and it’s just the beginning. I’m growing and learning and healing. I am creating the sense of safety I never had growing up. I am unlearning fear and shame. I am treating myself with dignity and gentleness. I am re-parenting myself. I wish I could go back to my teenage self, hug her tight and tell her the nightmare she’s living in is not her fault, that she’s beautiful and brilliant and radiant and her existence is inherently good, not evil. Tonight I will look up at the sky and pretend each firework was lit just for me.

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❤️❤️❤️ enjoy your fireworks :)
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I think I'm at the point of the life where I can finally feel grateful for the direction things are going, which is weird because if you asked me four years ago about the current standing of myself and everything, I'd be confused. And I think I have time to thank for my many epiphanies. Time is scary, and that's what haunts me when I go to sleep. However, it can be a double edged sword. Though I may panic about the goodbyes I'll never properly say, the inevitable truth that I will no longer be a teenage girl and impending adulthood, time has graced me with a few things. Instead of thinking waking up as a chore, I wake up eager to do things even if it's a mundane chore, to learn about a new obsession, to read, to love, to yearn. The bonds I've formed, no matter how small or quick they dissappear. I'm lucky to say that I've learned at least one things from people I've formed relationships with, some miniscule compared to others. From these I've accepted to be raw, authentic, and to be present rather than to lose myself in the past or future The ability to see what I've accomplished rather than what I haven't, to be compassionate to myself above all which I wish was something I had as a young adolescent. I wish I could go back in time to thirteen year old me, even in a dream, and tell her to accept and live even in the midst of hell being a teenage girl. To take the risks and how even though the end of the fall is far, she'll have something to land on. To reassure that things do end up in her favor and instruct her to do the hardest thing ever: wait.
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I turned 21 in february 2020, so, ya know. My world changed quick. But truly I just remember trying various things, trying to define and undefine myself. Feeling what it felt like to stick to my guns, then readjust them. I was in the middle of what would be a 2.5 year relationship. I didn't kid myself with picturing a big future anymore than what was sweet, which was wonderful. I was living with a partner for the first time and felt like I knew what to do, like I was experienced enough for all the problems which faced me. but really I was just experienced enough to start so many things. I was constantly bouncing between total pride and complete faliure. Playing house in a house I was actually renting with friends. Experimenting with what grocery shopping for myself meant to my life, redifining how I was going to live my days in the future. The best thing I did in my 21st year of life was not be too mean to myself for not committing, and just committing to new things. I would go dance in the park, go on walks, edit music. All things I wish I did on the regular but regardless, by trying new things, it made it so much easier to pick them up, because I had a frame of reference for the world. I loved being 20, as depressed as I was. That specific creativity is gone. But now I am 25 and know how to weild my own magic. The depth I have always felt within my soul has farther definition. Its like I put on glasses in a 7th dimention. Don't underestimate the beautiful growth ahead. Yes you are an adult, equipped hopefully to start so many new things. But keep up that internal work, and the years will be bountiful towards true inner peace. And soo many more new tools to better learn how to tackle issues while still feeling like yourself. u got this. stay true to urself but be flexibl with redifining who that is. x
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