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My friends and I (all in the service industry) celebrate weekend Wednesday, for over a year at this point. But today I earned my beers. 12 hour shift, hitting my overtime, in over 100 degree weather, I had a day to say the least. Recently I heard on npr (i love the radio I'm sorry) this concept of benign masochism, and they explained how humans sometimes seek out things that hurt us in order to feel the contrast of the things that bring us joy. Girl they were on to something. The first sips of my shared bud light pitcher at a sticky dive bar with my fellow sweaty friends, was life changing. Piss beer never tasted so good.
Jun 26, 2025
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There are many situations that are elevated with the crisp, hoppy, or tart flavors of a beer.
While catching up with beloved friends in a dark, cozy bar, or while the sun beats down on your skin as you look out at a cool blue lake. During a sporting event, or after a long, sweaty beach volleyball tournament.
Nothing like the palpable flavors and nourishing carbohydrates bestowed by a beer.
Nothing like the palpable flavors and nourishing carbohydrates bestowed by a beer.
May 28, 2025
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💄I am making a zine about the art of performing, producing and affirming our gender.
A few weeks ago I was struck by a video of a piercer talking about gender-affirming piercings that exposed my bias. I, (a nonbinary hyper-femme glittery diva, obsessed with exploring, manipulating, and playing with expression, using my face, body, and essence as a canvas), realized I assume that "gender-affirming" actions, such as getting a piercing, would only refer to trans folks. There was this unconscious part of me that still gripped to the narrative that "gender" was somehow real... that cis people did not need to perform, produce, or affirm their own identity... that gender was static. This piercer exposed a hideous blind spot. They opened with a story of little girls getting their lobes pierced. This beautiful ushering into womanhood, this ritual of adorning similar style jewels to the brave and courageous women in your life. And then mothers. When mothers get their nose pierced to reclaim their bodies, to reclaim their autonomy after literally sharing, giving, everything to bring a child into the world. We all use art express our gender. We all everyday wake up and perform gender - yes sometimes in the theatrical sense, gender is drag of course - but also in the Judith Butler sense, that with every act we create a new reality. I don't know. The whole thing has just got me thinking. Especially with the state of the world today, authoritarianism on the rise globally, transgender history literally being deleted from government websites... a joyful celebration of gender, a leaning into the playful aspects of what gender can, of what it should be... is at least what I need.
If you, cis, trans, unsure, whatever, have a story of a gender-affirming moment in your life, please share:) And if anyone wants to be a part of this project .... eeeeee that would be sick!
A few weeks ago I was struck by a video of a piercer talking about gender-affirming piercings that exposed my bias. I, (a nonbinary hyper-femme glittery diva, obsessed with exploring, manipulating, and playing with expression, using my face, body, and essence as a canvas), realized I assume that "gender-affirming" actions, such as getting a piercing, would only refer to trans folks. There was this unconscious part of me that still gripped to the narrative that "gender" was somehow real... that cis people did not need to perform, produce, or affirm their own identity... that gender was static. This piercer exposed a hideous blind spot. They opened with a story of little girls getting their lobes pierced. This beautiful ushering into womanhood, this ritual of adorning similar style jewels to the brave and courageous women in your life. And then mothers. When mothers get their nose pierced to reclaim their bodies, to reclaim their autonomy after literally sharing, giving, everything to bring a child into the world. We all use art express our gender. We all everyday wake up and perform gender - yes sometimes in the theatrical sense, gender is drag of course - but also in the Judith Butler sense, that with every act we create a new reality. I don't know. The whole thing has just got me thinking. Especially with the state of the world today, authoritarianism on the rise globally, transgender history literally being deleted from government websites... a joyful celebration of gender, a leaning into the playful aspects of what gender can, of what it should be... is at least what I need.
If you, cis, trans, unsure, whatever, have a story of a gender-affirming moment in your life, please share:) And if anyone wants to be a part of this project .... eeeeee that would be sick!
Feb 19, 2025
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📵two weeks ago my iPhone decided she would no longer turn on, and as the broke young adult I am I said fuck it what if I went off the grid? Mind you I have been ADDICTED to short-form content and social media for years. I tried the time limits thingy but like any addict I just completely ignored it.
there was a withdrawal period, sure, but my god. I have so many thoughts. So many ideas. So much more patience. I have read more, created more art, and spent some of the best times with my friends. I have sent letters and receive emails. We are not meant to be reached 24/7. I am intentional with my news intake, and I am even more informed because I make an active decision to read and watch the news when my nervous system is regulated and with all this free time I have the space to process what I am consuming.
I truly do not see myself ever going back. With no google maps to rely on I am experiencing my surroundings - paying attention to the small stuff. I live in a fucking beautiful place. I am surrounded by beautiful people. I have an interesting mind capable of beautiful thoughts.
mom was right!!! it is the damn phone!!!!
there was a withdrawal period, sure, but my god. I have so many thoughts. So many ideas. So much more patience. I have read more, created more art, and spent some of the best times with my friends. I have sent letters and receive emails. We are not meant to be reached 24/7. I am intentional with my news intake, and I am even more informed because I make an active decision to read and watch the news when my nervous system is regulated and with all this free time I have the space to process what I am consuming.
I truly do not see myself ever going back. With no google maps to rely on I am experiencing my surroundings - paying attention to the small stuff. I live in a fucking beautiful place. I am surrounded by beautiful people. I have an interesting mind capable of beautiful thoughts.
mom was right!!! it is the damn phone!!!!
Jun 15, 2025
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💔I don't have a phone right now and the other day at work I was looking particularly cute (barista bartender step on you but adorable) and I got to turn men down by saying I don't have a phone... which they obviously assumed I was lying... but it gave me such a cruel satisfaction because I knew it was true.
When I got home and told my partner this, he was all like why didn't you just say you're in a relationship?!?! First, ew, no. And second, didn't you JUST hear how much joy that response gave me?? smh. But just a reminder that you should be able to say no on your own accord without calling in the boyfriend backup as to say that you've already been claimed like a piece of fucking furniture. You can say no just because like ew gross.
xoxoxo
When I got home and told my partner this, he was all like why didn't you just say you're in a relationship?!?! First, ew, no. And second, didn't you JUST hear how much joy that response gave me?? smh. But just a reminder that you should be able to say no on your own accord without calling in the boyfriend backup as to say that you've already been claimed like a piece of fucking furniture. You can say no just because like ew gross.
xoxoxo
Jun 22, 2025