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I wanted to do this on purpose. As a woman I feel a lot of pressure from all around me to be constantly aware of my appearance. I frequently wish to be able to exist without constantly concerning myself about my appearance. I don’t consider myself someone who cares a lot about this in the first place. I don’t really wear makeup, I dress casually, not because these things are bad, but because thats just not how I choose to represent myself. I value so many things about myself and I believe that my physical appearance should fall LAST in line of my values. I value myself for being a critical thinker. And with being a critical thinker, you have to question the rhetoric that you, yourself believe. Why is it that I want to care less about my appearance? Why is it that when I look in the mirror at my new choppy blunt bangs I feel the need to justify them, to say they’re edgy, cute, they’re dakota Johnson joan of arc “core”. Why is it that I worry that my mother will see this as me spiraling. Is it so bad to look not perfect?
Jun 22, 2025
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I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasn’t realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so it’s easy to dwell on imperfections. But that’s not how people experience you. It’s not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. You’d think there’s something wrong with them! Who focuses on a person’s looks that much! Get a life you misery!
That’s how we treat ourselves. There’s an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. It’s so boring. Your “flaws”—as society has taught you to think about them—are not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness.
One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But that’s what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because she’s unapologetic about them.
Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. It’s how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other people— not how you look.
Mar 29, 2025
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I change my appearance multiple times a year. I cut my hair and dye it. I try new styles. I get tattoos and piercings. I try new food. I do things for ME. I want to find my true self and interests and each day I get closer to who I really want to be. I feel I learn something new about myself everyday even if it’s small. (I’m depressed + anxious too and it can be so hard but I remind myself that I can’t care about everyone else and their opinions I need to do what is right for me. and no it is not selfish to do things for you).
Apr 9, 2025
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My hair is "bad", yes. My clothes "don't totally fit", yes. My body is a weird shape and different than many people I see, yes. But know what's great? Throwing all caution to the wind and letting yourself be maximally comfortable and defiantly unfiltered, freeing up energy to do something else that feeds you rather than saps your lifeforce. I think (at least I hope) it's kind of cunt to step into the world a little disheveled and think, "I'm smokin hot and it's your pleasure to witness me in my natural state."
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I thought I’d have a nice little glass of milk and I spilled it everywhere, pillows, hardwood, INSIDE A PLUGGED IN OUTLET, my purse somehow??? Why the fuck to people say don’t cry over spilt milk. That is one of the most excusable reasons to cry.
Jun 22, 2025
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We need to have gogurt for more foods than just yogurt. How about gosoups please tomato soup in a sleeve please. Gorice, Gochilli, Gotiramasu, Goomelet, Gomashpotato, Goguacamole, Gooatmeal. Please give me more ideas
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