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Honestly, it sucks especially because this was my ābestā friend, but Iāve just had to go cold turkey. Iām already not online much, I get on here as my only social media really lol, but I still muted her stories so I donāt accidentally open them. I love journaling, if you donāt already you could definitely try that! Some people say the first good vent you journal about is when you really start journaling authentically so maybe it would be a cathartic release for you and also good timing to start.
Start doing more in your real life and not online. I feel like when we get our faces out of our screens and in the sunshine it can make us so much happier, which sounds like that cheesy advice everyone hates to hear but itās true. Spend some time outside, walk in nature if you can. Come back to old hobbies or find some new ones. Enjoy yourself outside of the social media bubble where you might see memes or posts that you wouldāve sent to your friend previously and now are only a reminder.
Learn to enjoy spending time with people other than them or with just yourself again!
Start doing more in your real life and not online. I feel like when we get our faces out of our screens and in the sunshine it can make us so much happier, which sounds like that cheesy advice everyone hates to hear but itās true. Spend some time outside, walk in nature if you can. Come back to old hobbies or find some new ones. Enjoy yourself outside of the social media bubble where you might see memes or posts that you wouldāve sent to your friend previously and now are only a reminder.
Learn to enjoy spending time with people other than them or with just yourself again!
Jun 8, 2025
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ā- podcasts (I like the broski report and the basement yard)
- being around animals: go to dog parks, cat cafes, or just pet random animals that you walk past on the street
- meditation (sit quietly, deep breaths, calming music)
- social media (here, instagram, discord) start sending stuff to your old friends online if itās too much to hang in person
I hope you feel better. Iāve been in a situation very similar to yours and I understand completely. It is so difficult to have to distance yourself from others when you still feel that loneliness. But, since youāre feeling better now, please please please start putting yourself out there again. I promise you that your friends still love you and want to be around you. But you have to be the one to bridge that gap that you created. I hope this helped :)
- being around animals: go to dog parks, cat cafes, or just pet random animals that you walk past on the street
- meditation (sit quietly, deep breaths, calming music)
- social media (here, instagram, discord) start sending stuff to your old friends online if itās too much to hang in person
I hope you feel better. Iāve been in a situation very similar to yours and I understand completely. It is so difficult to have to distance yourself from others when you still feel that loneliness. But, since youāre feeling better now, please please please start putting yourself out there again. I promise you that your friends still love you and want to be around you. But you have to be the one to bridge that gap that you created. I hope this helped :)
Jan 8, 2025
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āØhmmm a tough one especially when you're going through it. i'm going through the exact same thing now for a long time and honestly there's no one correct way of getting out of it. I feel lucky enough to have found really nice friends around me who check upon me daily so try surrounding yourself with people who really are just nice and happy. highly likely they'd make you feel better!! Also, journaling might help if you're into it? I've recently started writing down all the good and the bad that happens to me at the end of everyday. Helps me calm down a bit (i've got anxiety) and not overthink much about the bad things, because at the end they really are not that big of a deal! also you feel better when you add up and get to see all the tiny good things that happen to you everyday!
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š1.) Shave my face. Iām never without facial hair, so if you see me without facial hair, know that I just had a relationship end. New beginnings, itās just hair, itāll grow back.
2.) Rekindle old friendships and strengthen new ones. Iāve gotta find community again, and I know these people have my back. Lean on them, but donāt ask for too much, you gotta get through this on your own (but not by yourself)
3.) Gym membership. Just trust. An hour a day makes a difference, gets you out of bed, gets the blood flowing. Youāll feel better. Maybe not happier, but better.
- optional steps include: the requisite maladaptive habits, maybe slightly heavier drinking, resuming smoking, getting right back into the apps. These are BAD, but understandable. Donāt rely on them. Checking their socials. RESIST the urge, itāll make you feel worse.
2.) Rekindle old friendships and strengthen new ones. Iāve gotta find community again, and I know these people have my back. Lean on them, but donāt ask for too much, you gotta get through this on your own (but not by yourself)
3.) Gym membership. Just trust. An hour a day makes a difference, gets you out of bed, gets the blood flowing. Youāll feel better. Maybe not happier, but better.
- optional steps include: the requisite maladaptive habits, maybe slightly heavier drinking, resuming smoking, getting right back into the apps. These are BAD, but understandable. Donāt rely on them. Checking their socials. RESIST the urge, itāll make you feel worse.
Jul 16, 2025
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š„I know Iāve ranted about AI before but! Just saw another writer who was doing peer reviews as she was writing chapters with another person; until she found out the other person was using AI for their NOVEL! Blows my mind. She removed this person from her document and sent her a kind but straightforward message about how she wonāt be working with her going forward due to the AI usage. I feel like using it for novel writing is one of the most insane uses because #1 this person told me that the AI generated parts of the work werenāt even as good as the other personās normal writing was. #2 letās say no one noticed and you published with the AI work, so you would be okay if the book did well but it wasnāt even truly your writing that people would be praising?? Not to mention of course the morality and environmental impact.
Also, I was shopping around today for a custom leather stamp to start stamping the leather journal covers I make. Thought I found someone to make it until they said to send the logo file over and theyāll send back AI created renderings of a mockup to approve. Now I am starting the search all overš
Also, I was shopping around today for a custom leather stamp to start stamping the leather journal covers I make. Thought I found someone to make it until they said to send the logo file over and theyāll send back AI created renderings of a mockup to approve. Now I am starting the search all overš
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Today was one of those bad days where it causes a headache and you feel exhausted from everything, but somehow a nice long walk outside made things seem a little better. Fresh air and thinking or daydreaming while listening to the sounds of outside.
I sometimes find myself taking for granted the place that I live, I work or Iām too tired and I use that as an excuse to not go outside more. Yet every time I get the chance to spend the time outside, I canāt say I ever regret it.
Iām going to make it a goal for myself to try and take a walk outside at least a few times a week.
I sometimes find myself taking for granted the place that I live, I work or Iām too tired and I use that as an excuse to not go outside more. Yet every time I get the chance to spend the time outside, I canāt say I ever regret it.
Iām going to make it a goal for myself to try and take a walk outside at least a few times a week.
